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Player or No player????
| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 11:45pm |
If I looked in the dictionary I bet his picture would be beside the word Player.
| Tue, 11-23-2004 - 11:45pm |
If I looked in the dictionary I bet his picture would be beside the word Player.
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Trying to tell myself that I am strong - Friday will be 2 weeks of NC - the longest we have ever gone.
My friend's bday is Saturday. She called me today to tell me about a "girls nite out" she has planned for that evening. I declined. I know how tough it will be to be out with the girls, have a few drinks and NOT call him. I'd rather just not even put myself in that position. It sucks, because I'd really like to go, but I just don't think I'm ready for that yet. So much for being strong!
Yep - still going to T. Too soon to have made much progress - just talking and getting some stuff out right now. But I like her and it helps just to be able to vent for that hour every week.
Funny - xOM & I broke up beginning of June too. It lasted about 4 hours before we ended up meeting in a parking lot and crying and holding each other. It was all downhill after that though. He started to pull away and things were never the same. H & I were going to London for 10 days the end of July - xOM said he thought it would be the end of our R. He thought H & I would 'reconnect'. I came back feeling the same about xOM, but he didn't believe it and we ended up breaking up officially the beginning of August. By the end of September he had decided that, although he no longer loved me or had feelings for me (nice huh?) that we should still be able to sleep together! OK! Cuz that makes sense!!!
I hate him :-p
Any word from the other secretary?
Diva
Diva, THAT IS being strong, just in a different way!
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UHG (you really need to change that user id) -
You are too cute! Good for you! I hope he DOES think you have moved on to someone else!! I love those little digs!
And what's up w/ him calling you by your given name?? Schmuck! Ya know, my xOM did something similar to me a few months ago. He sent me an email (work related) and mispelled my name! Whatever!
I think my xOM has had a hard time w/ the break up too (even though he says he's 'over it'). I can't imagine why he would have gotten all freaked out when my H called the last time we were together (since he said it was for "just sex") unless he still had feelings for me (even though he told me "It's just wrong - you're reading too much into it"). Whatever! (I say that alot).
Ok - I think I'm done male bashing...for the moment :-)
Diva
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**UPDATE**
Hey Diva!
I completely believe he saw the photo now!
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UHG,
YAY FOR YOU!! I think we need that validation sometimes (even if it is from schmucks ;-)). I think it makes it easier on them if they see us hurting. When they don't, they don't know what to do or how to react. After xOM and I broke up, we met for coffee one day - he said I seemed to be taking things well - I said, "What did you expect me to sit at home and cry over you night after night (of course that is EXACTLY what I was doing, but HE didn't need to know that!). He said, "Well, I don't know..." SCHMUCK! That was what he wanted me to be doing!! Oh, I hate him today!!
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I certainly hope you are right! Although, lucky for him, he changed jobs, so he is now pretty far away from all the places we use to go. I, on the other hand, still go to the same Starbucks everyday. All I can hope is that when our song comes on the radio, he has to change the station :-) When he first changed jobs, he told me he was looking for an apartment near his new job - he said he looked at one and the complex had the same name as my maiden name - I remember him saying, "Yeah, I couldn't live there". Hmmm. :-p, Again, I hate him today!
I gotta say, the one GOOD thing that has come from these jerks is that we ended up meeting other amazing women who got sucked in too! Cheers to us!!
Diva
Hey Diva,
You are so completely right here!
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UHG -
I love reading your posts - they always make me smile and make my day just a little bit better - THANKS!!!
Yeah, it's not fair that xOM is so far away from me now - he doesn't get the joy of driving by all those little places we use to meet. Lucky me! It was really hard after we broke up and I would leave the office and pass by on him on the road. It happened a couple of times and it always made me cry.
I'm trying to take satisfaction in knowing that he must be wondering why I haven't called him in 2 weeks. He probably could care less. I haven't gotten any 2am phone calls in the last 2 weeks (since he freaked out when my H called while we were 'together'). But whatever - although I would like to get that final dig in ;-)
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Did they read the same How to be a Jerk manual??? xOM told me the same thing - didn't think I could "handle" being just friends because I was still "in love with him". Arrogant SOB!
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I know this sounds awful, but I don't know what I would do if xOM called me right now and said he wanted me back. I honestly don't...MAN I HATE THAT!!
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That is the worst part! I was on my way into work this morning and saw a truck with his name on it (some refrigeration company). Then got stopped at a light and the street was his last name. I hate that I can't listen to a certain band because it was both of our favorites (and one of their songs was his ringer on my cell phone).
My friend asked that I reconsider going out with her tomorrow night - thought you would enjoy my response...
"You're going to have a great time tomorrow night - with or without me :-) Do you really want me crying & whining all night??? NO! It would be just my luck that we would run into him somewhere. Then I would end up slashing his tires, or beating him or something REALLY bad and then you would have to lie to everyone about why I was arrested (I'm assuming some sort of drug or prostitution story would be best) and then turn to stripping to raise the $$ to bail me out of jail. I can't accept that kind of responsibility for your life!"
LOL
Diva
Hey UHG -
Just checking in w/ you...hope you had a fabulous weekend. You'll be happy to know I did the 'couple' thing Saturday night (so no, my friend didn't have to bail me out of jail - if you read my last post). H & I met 2 other couples for drinks. Of course I still thought about xOM, but another weekend down w/o picking up that phone! I have to say, at least THAT part of it is getting a bit easier!!
I had breakfast w/ a close group of friends Saturday morning. 2 of them already knew my situation w/ the A (one knew more than the other), but I told the 3rd friend. Everyone was pretty supportive and encouraged me to stay away from him & stay in T. Part of me is glad they know - I hate keeping it in all the time and acting like the 'happy little wife', but part of me feels bad too because my friends all ADORE my H and I don't want them to look at me or HIM any differently!
The next few weekends are pretty busy - party Saturday night (another group thing - couples and single friends, H will be with me), holiday party at H's company the following weekend, along w/ a family get together, following weekend is x-mas and we will be out of town visiting my family, following weekend is New Years - again, out of town w/ friends and then the follwing weekend, my next show opens at the theatre! T mixed in once a week, and I'm hoping all this craziness should keep my mind busy enough to stay off jerkface! :-)
Diva
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