My first reaction to your post and your question is NO do not send the letter.
Do not throw anymore fuel on the fire. What good will it do, other than to create complete chaos in all 3 of your lives. Who needs that? Believe me, after she marries this jerk, in time, she will get plenty of crap thrown at her. Let her have him - good riddance for you naya!
Please don't send the letter - think about it for a minute. It's not her fault her fiancé is a douchebag manipulator, she hasn't done anything to you so she definitely doesn't deserve to be hurt by you. Don't burden yourself with their problems Naya; it's not your responsibility to inform her he's a lying cheat.
The one thing you can and do have power over, Naya, is your availability towards him and you can take that away any time you want (now would be a great idea). His lying about his engagement is completely unacceptable, he doesn't deserve a minute more of your time.
I did what you are saying you want to do. It was not a letter though I did it through emails and I tried to do it anonymously. I had given proof in my emails of things he was saying about her to me even things about her when they were intimate. Basically he would complain about her to me and tell me ways he was using her. She had to be smart enough to know there was no way for someone to know these private details unless he was telling them to someone.
I don't think to this day he or she knows it was me. Although, later she found emails he wrote to me that he still had on his computer telling me he loved me. She also came across at text where he was telling me he needed me.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
No, don't send it. not if you are serious about ending it. it will only keep the dialogue open- and that is not what you want to do, is it? don't you want the pain to end? don't you want to get away from these lies, pain, deceit?
you deserve better. walk awaY; strap on your new nikes and follow our well-worn ones.
welcom to eas, and, ending
ls
CL-Lovely Starr
"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being hard."
You are all so wonderful, and have already helped me out tons!!! He wants to meet on Tuesday for his needed closure, and for once, I was able to tell him to F himself—He kept writing back to me, and I ignored it—What an empowering feeling!! Something I haven’t done in so long!! I have to constantly tell myself I am worth better than this… My confidence is somewhere deep down inside of me, and hopefully with time, it will shine once again… : )
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First, welcome to EAS.
My first reaction to your post and your question is NO do not send the letter.
Do not throw anymore fuel on the fire. What good will it do, other than to create complete chaos in all 3 of your lives. Who needs that? Believe me, after she marries this jerk, in time, she will get plenty of crap thrown at her. Let her have him - good riddance for you naya!
Hi Naya and welcome to EAS.
Please don't send the letter - think about it for a minute. It's not her fault her fiancé is a douchebag manipulator, she hasn't done anything to you so she definitely doesn't deserve to be hurt by you. Don't burden yourself with their problems Naya; it's not your responsibility to inform her he's a lying cheat.
The one thing you can and do have power over, Naya, is your availability towards him and you can take that away any time you want (now would be a great idea). His lying about his engagement is completely unacceptable, he doesn't deserve a minute more of your time.
big hugs,
trixie xo
Hi Trixie:
Hi Naya,
I did what you are saying you want to do. It was not a letter though I did it through emails and I tried to do it anonymously. I had given proof in my emails of things he was saying about her to me even things about her when they were intimate. Basically he would complain about her to me and tell me ways he was using her. She had to be smart enough to know there was no way for someone to know these private details unless he was telling them to someone.
I don't think to this day he or she knows it was me. Although, later she found emails he wrote to me that he still had on his computer telling me he loved me. She also came across at text where he was telling me he needed me.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
WOW,
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
No, don't send it. not if you are serious about ending it. it will only keep the dialogue open- and that is not what you want to do, is it? don't you want the pain to end? don't you want to get away from these lies, pain, deceit?
you deserve better. walk awaY; strap on your new nikes and follow our well-worn ones.
welcom to eas, and, ending
ls
CL-Lovely Starr
"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being hard."
CL-Lovely Starr
"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being h
Naya,
Don't do it.
You are all so wonderful, and have already helped me out tons!!! He wants to meet on Tuesday for his needed closure, and for once, I was able to tell him to F himself—He kept writing back to me, and I ignored it—What an empowering feeling!! Something I haven’t done in so long!! I have to constantly tell myself I am worth better than this… My confidence is somewhere deep down inside of me, and hopefully with time, it will shine once again… : )
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