how do i make him understand?? i am supposed to talk to him in an hour and a half! he just keeps telling me how much he loves me(which i tell him if he did he would let me go!!) please help! i feel so desperate and scared! i cant stand the thought of losing my marriage and family!!!!!!!!
You are allowing this man to have total control over you. I know you are stronger than that, cmon, you are a mom. Call his bluff. Block his calls and never talk to him again. Erase him from your life. Get your power back.
i have his texts blocked from my phone as of last night. the reason i say he is holding me hostage or wont let me go is because i am so terrified he is going to tell my husband, family, friends...etc. That is what is keeping me from total NC. im just scared. he keeps telling me we can "just be friends" ..i told him maybe in the future but not right now. should i even do that??? why the hell did i do this............
thank you for ur kind words and advice =) I am afraid in the beginning i did give him high expectations. When this began it was like being on drugs...everything felt good and i was not able to see all of the collateral damage. (or i didnt want to see it, at least) But for the past 4 months i have told him numerous times that i cant even look myself in the eye anymore. i havent been firm enough tho. i always let him guilt me into staying. "you are all i have" "im going to be alone because of you" "i have to see you or i will go crazy" "i cant live without you in my life"...all the things i hear daily. I told him this was so unhealthy for both of us but he keeps saying "love isnt unhealthy!!!" i beg to differ. i told him if he loved me he would comply with this and not threaten me. he says if i loved him i would stay. i just want this to be over so that i can start healing and giving my h and s the love they deserve. thank you again. i appreciate it very much. i felt so alone until i found this board. the one person i told abt AP was my sister who i am very close to, or so i thought and she has turned her back on me.
Seek,
I don't understand his NOT letting you
~Iddy~
Seek, If he truly loved you, he wouldn't be threatening you.
Edited 6/8/2010 4:59 pm ET by seekanend