Please help me

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Please help me
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 10:13am

I can hardly type - I am shaking and crying so bad.

He called me 8 times from different numbers and to my home.

I finally had the courage last night to ask wcf to erase all the emails from our shared accounts. Remember how I couldn't change anything because it would notify him. Well - instead, I thought, I just want all the emails gone. GONE. I didn't want to go into the accounts ... I didn't want to read anything. So wcf did it for me.

Then I went to counseling this morning. When I come out there are 6 missed calls on my cell phone. Another call comes within minutes. I say hello ... he says 'hi it is me - why did you do that' ... I freeze and then hang up. I say nothing. He calls back and I don't answer. Again, a different number. He has left a voicemail - a long one. I haven't listened. I come home, and the numbers can be seen on my call display. This affair cost me everything - my marriage, work, not to mention dignity, self-esteem etc ... he has the nerve to call me and ask why?

Omg - I feel scared. He has never acted like this. I have his email accounts blocked, but these numbers are from no where. This affair ended almost 7 months ago - 5 months of NC.

Please help me ground myself.

Thank you,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 12:09pm
Oh transcendingus, your posts are so inspirational and you are such a strong woman to have gone through all that you have and be so willing to help others. Please know that his fishing attempts are selfish. He is still home with his W while you loss your job and your DH as well as humiliated. This man thinks that he can still manipulate you. You are in a better place than you were during the A and you cannot turn back now. You have come too far.
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 12:33pm

you are completely wrong BP.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 12:58pm

yes

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 1:46pm

TU,


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 6:21pm

This is going to sound repetitive but stay the course.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2009
Tue, 08-31-2010 - 11:20am

TU,


Sending you big cyber hugs...

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3

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