Please help me

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2010
Please help me
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Sun, 07-18-2010 - 8:24pm

Hello,


I have been lurking for many months from work and home.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 2:10pm

Superwoman, many BS would say that emotional affairs are much harder to take than the actual physical affair. I have read this on other boards when the BS talks of it. Sex does not compare to that emotional bond in an A and that is much harder to get over. Please heed the advice of the ladies on there, been there and did that.

Yeah Iddy, I wondered at first if your account was hijacked;)

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Registered: 07-18-2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 11:12pm

Hello ladies,


I can't tell you how much your posts help me during the day.

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Registered: 05-18-2007
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 2:49am

"Is there an acceptable range of behaviour in my situation, that is definitely not in the realm of a PA, but that would still be ok?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 7:53am

BIG (((hugs)) to you, SW. We all know the pull of that temptation. We've BTDT and have the battle scars to prove it. You will giving yourself the best gift ever by not going there. When those tinges hit, think of your H, or better yet email or call him, and tell him how much you love and adore him. He's sounds wonderful.


I pegged you as a very smart woman and this post reinforces my first impression of you. Just coming here speaks volumes about your true inner beauty and that you are a good person. Life can throw us some curve balls, but with knowledge and practice, we learn how to hit them out of the park.


LC, honey, all the way. Set those boundaries and stick to them.


Love and blessings,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 07-18-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 9:46am

Ladies,


Thanks for your kind words and all the support.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:24am

(((SW))),


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   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 11:17am

Superwoman,
I am 43 with a good job in an industry that relies heavily on social interaction and connections and I can tell you that being 100% professional, not flirty or overly girly, is not a detriment to advancement. Women have been fighting this battle since they entered the workforce and there are lots of books and advice out there to help you navigate - so, take heart! Keeping on the straight and narrow professionally/socially and having that reputation will actually bolster your career (certainly better than having even the slightest besmirching reputation that you flirted or slept your way to the top.)

The limitations you will need to place on yourself are not the kind that will allow other, less qualified people to advance before you - unless you feel like your boss will require you to play dirty games - in which case, there are legal protections against that sort of behavior.

I think you'll feel more empowered after you hit the bookstore and google for some hard-hitting, career advancing advice.

Wishing you the best and confident you'll get it.
Dee

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Registered: 02-11-2006
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 5:11pm

Super,

Today is the first day, I have read EAS, I am currently in an affair, and have no plans to end it. I wanted to post to you, because you said "You love your husband, and have not plans to leave".

I went into my affair with that thought, it was just going to be a FWB, but I fell in love. I know I will never have a normal relationship with my AP. But I can not bring myself to leave him.

In the mean time, the love for my husband diminished to nothing and when I am around him I feel hollow. I can barely stand to have him touch me. Living this double life is painful, and I do not know where it will take me in the end. I am currently on meds, and in therapy. I hope I can find peace and happiness down the road.

Please continue to move toward your husband, he deserves your respect, and if in the end, you decide you don't want him anymore. Move on, move out and then find a real relationship.

Best wishes, stay strong! YOU CAN DO IT!!!


!! When you hit curves hold on....when you go
up hill be patient....when you go down fast....throw your hands up....scream, hold your breath.....and rush back to get in line again. Life keeps moving, so should you!!
LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER!!! When you hit curves hold on....when you go up hill be patient....when you go down fast....throw your hands up....scream, hold your breath.....and rush back to get in line again. Life keeps moving, so should you!!

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