Please help...anxiety. obsession. depression.

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Please help...anxiety. obsession. depression.
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 4:27pm

Hi,

I posted the other day about my shameful experience of having an A and worse how I got there.

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Only have a minute, WWWM, but wanted to reach out and give you a hug. I will write more a little later. What you are experiencing is normal. You are going to be OKAY. You are working on ridding yourself of the toxins and like any detox, it is PAINFUL. Keep hanging in there, sweetie.

~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Ohh, thank you!

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WW-- it will get better, I'm a two step forward one step back kinda gal and tend to over analyze BUT even with that 8 weeks in and I'm doing so much better... I thought i was going to die! Little by little you will see it for what it was and you just won't care. Use anger to get through this stage. Sounds like you have plenty to be angry about! Thank your lucky stars you got out when you did! Hang in there darlin' the ladies here are crazy wise. ( way more than me right now) Help is on the way!

Xo
Chechi!
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Got one more minute (I'm bouncing between this board and a conference call).

You are soooooo right that it really helps to get a little individual TLC. It helped me tremendously just knowing so many people cared enough to take the time to give me support. We are here for you, too. Whatever you need. I will hold you in my cyber arms. :) Just go ahead and cry, WWWM. It helped me so much the other night. You are so new and so raw and so hurt and so confused right now. I promise you that you will soon be able to start making sense of your feelings. Listen and follow all the advice that is given here. We have all been in those beginning raw stages. Just be as gentle as you can with yourself. Try to drink some tea, maybe take a warm bath. Do you like to read? Do you have a good book. Reading is one of my favorite escapes. If I can get into a good book, I can shut out the whole world for a little bit. I will check in with you in a few hours. Put your arms around yourself and tell yourself that you are not a bad person, because you are not. If you think you are, you would have to think we all are because we have all done the same thing. (((wwwm)))
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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WhatisRIGHTwithme (I changed your name a bit - hope you don't mind) :)

Everything you are feeling is normal - you have to go through some crappy feelings before you will start to feel better. But TRUST me when I say you will feel better.

"I am scared. Scared to find out I didn't really matter. Scared to find out that the past 7 1/2 years were a huge waste of everything. Scared to admit that I was so wrong about him. I left my marriage for him. I did the right thing and admitted that I was unhappy and left. Everything happens for a reason right? So maybe I met him so that I would stop being complacent in my marriage and leave. I'm scared that I will be alone, as much as I have told myself that this is a MILLION times worse than being alone."

That was MY post on June 18th!

Reading the Healing Library is great, but also get out of your head a little as well. Like Always said, read a book or watch a movie. At the beginning all you can do is take it a minute at a time. Process each thought and keep reassuring yourself that these feeling will NOT last forever.

Bodhi

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Just reread your story... Got just a minute.. But want to say you are AWESOME! Seeing the light and just cutting him off . Just like that. You followed your intuition and canned him. What an ass he is. No body needs that crap! Clearly you are tough and you love yourself... Makes me even more sure you'll get through this ;) take care of U this weekend.
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Thank you wonderful ladies-

I called my T and had a complete cry fest.

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You've received tremendous support, I just wanted to add that indeed you are in withdrawl and that it will pass (soon) if you support the process by eating well, drinking plenty of water, staying connected to others and exercising out that adrenaline.

Emotional Withdrawal Symptoms

* Anxiety
* Restlessness
* Irritability
* Insomnia
* Headaches
* Poor concentration
* Depression
* Social isolation

Physical Withdrawal Symptoms

* Sweating
* Racing heart
* Palpitations
* Muscle tension
* Tightness in the chest
* Difficulty breathing
* Tremor
* Nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea

These will pass, the swings of emotions will mellow, and you will soon find yourself in more of a dull ache kinda place rather than the acuteness of this phase.

Dig deep & hold fast: you're going to be okay.

TU.
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Hugs to you whatswrongwithme. The other girls said it so well. Things will feel a whole lot worse before they get better. Give yourself time to feel everything. Do something good for you. Having a glass of wine was a great idea - maybe follow that up with a hot bath. Just take every moment as it comes. Tomorrow is scary, but don't look to tomorrow - work through today first and worry about tomorrow, well tomorrow. Hugs.
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Hi what,

Reading and posting is very helpful and with all the amazing and helpful replies you will receive it gives you a that encouragement to go forward. Reaching out as you have is a great step :)

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