Please someone answer before I break NC

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Please someone answer before I break NC
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 2:18pm
I posted earlier today (I hate myself - I had a set back). I am at wits end. I will not call him but I feel that I have taken steps back. Did I act okay by not looking at him or talking to him. Did I look upset to him or did it look like I just didn't care. He didn't try to talk to me either. If you read my post earlier it says what happened and the comment I said to him. Why are we being this way to each other when we ended okay? I hate going through this all over again. I want to call bc I feel that was stupid for us to act like that but when I did call last time (4 weeks ago) he didn't want to talk to me. I supposely ended things with him but I kept calling back until he asked why I was calling him and he said he would call me back and didn't. Did I walk away looking okay in his eyes? I wonder what he was thinking? I know I shouldn't care but it is driving me crazy. I kept looking out for him the whole time and would turn my back if I saw them. Did he just loose all feelings he had in a month and just didn't care at all to talk or look at me. I know I did the same thing but I know I was looking for him so maybe he was doing the same. What do you think?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 2:26pm
I am confused as to why you think you had a setback. It sounds to me like you handled things just FINE; what did you expect, that you would be able to act like best buds when you ran into each other? By getting through the evening and NOT contacting him, and NOT opening any doors, I would say you made a step FORWARD, not back!! :)


There is NOTHING to be gained by contacting him now; THAT would be your "setback."

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 2:41pm
I guess I feel that when I saw him I should have said hey and acted like he didn't bother me anymore but instead I acted like he wasn't there. He did the same to me. I guess some amount of hope I was hoping I would catch him looking at me but I felt nothing. I know I didn't look at him when he was around either bc I didn't want him catching me either. Its so stupid. Wouldn't have I looked better if I would have said hey when he said hey ya'll but instead I turned away.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 2:50pm
Honey, don't worry about it, you did the best you could in a very difficult situation! I still think you did just fine. Trust me, you will look a lot worse, a lot more desparate, if you contact him looking for some validation!!