Please tell me it gets better...
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Please tell me it gets better...
| Thu, 05-27-2010 - 12:35pm |
...because I don't know if I believe it anymore.
I've been in LC/NC since mid of GD February and somehow it's only getting worse. This week is an absolutely lowest of the low for me. I can't leave the job at the moment, but I also can't eat, can't sleep and can't live like that.
Please someone give me hope:)
Gone

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Gone,
What's happening?
Yes, Gone, I echo what CSN is saying. What has happened? What are the circumstances? We are certainly here to help... and I can say with conviction that is does get better, but not magically... so we can tailor our advice to help you in your situation if we understand it better.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Thank you ladies. It's just every few weeks he desperately attempts to restart the whole thing again, and it stirs up the emotions all over again. Nothing outstanding has happened - I guess I am just so worn out by this epic battle...:) I expected getting better by this time already, so I guess I am kind of dissapointed in the very slow progress too. LC is just a pure torture.
Thanks again.
Gone,
I have been thinking about you soooo much lately. Here's my (((hug))) for you, too. I will email you a little later.
Gone,
LC sucks!! There is nothing harder than having to face the one thing that you are trying to recover from and to face it on a daily basis. My heart goes out to you!
It DOES get easier but OUCH!! I dont think I got better till I asked for NC. There were still so many ups and downs with LC that I felt like I was still on that roller coaster. The 1st chance I had to go NC, I jumped on it. I struggle quite a bit here but thanks to all of you here, I feel like Im not alone. You are not alone either!!!
Hugs Gone!!!!!
GMLB
Gone,
I too am in a LC situation with my XAP.
Hi Gone,
I totally understand how you feel.
CSN, no, I don't respond to his fishing, in fact we've been in strict NC for the last two weeks and thank you for reminding me all the things I do NOT miss - hell no! I guess I am more frustrated with myself than anything else - why is it so difficult to get over something that was never real in the first place??
Dear GONE,
I am so sorry you are struggling right now. I am too. I continue to feel the pain of LC - but I trust that things will get easier. It sure doesn't feel like it some days, especially when he is not trying to hide his hurt from me. I feel as though I am on the verge of tears every moment. But you know, like I know, the pain we feel now is nothing compared to what we felt during the A. So while LC is hard, it is better, it is filled will the possibilities of a brighter future. Don't lose sight of this Gone. This pain won't always be with us. I truly and fundamentally believe that.
So, yes, it does get better ... believe it to achieve it (-:
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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