Positive reinforcement!

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Registered: 12-18-2003
Positive reinforcement!
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 2:04pm

This mornng a co-worker said something to me that really made a positive impact, reminding me how important it is for my A to have ended and stay that way. First of all, it was the first morning in lonnnnnnnng time I woke up feeling great. I even got dressed up cute and did my hair in a style I haven't for a while cuz xAP preferred it another way :smileytongue:. Anyway, my co-worker who has known me since way before the A said, "The good mood __ (my name) is back!!" It hit me - yes, he was right, I felt happy in a way I haven't in a long time. Balanced. Content. Like ME. (My NC date is just last Thursday, FYI - I ended it) I replied, "Yeah, she's been gone a while, huh?" He agreed and smiled and said "Welcome back! Please stick around!" Made me SO happy and made a big impact on how bad the A was for me!

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 3:07pm

Your waking up feeling great, makes me feel great!

Funny, how we start to lose ourselves.  And it's so insidious...we sometimes don't realize just how lost we have become, 'til we are totally lost and in a major funk.  Dang, everyone else notices though.

I'm glad you are starting to get your old balanced and contented self back.  Just as long as we work on the old mindset that got us in hot water in the first place, then we'll be okay.  And that takes changing our way of thinking, and that's what you are doing.  Like Einstein said,

"You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it."

You're going to making it this time, red...I just know it!



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Registered: 02-19-2012
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 10:01pm

Redlight, what a nice way to start your day!  You've made a positive change in your life and it's showing.