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| Fri, 03-05-2010 - 11:41pm |
I haven't been able to get on here and post recently (computer problems at home and smartphone that still sucks with ivillage/??)
For those who don't know me, I've been around off and on for about 1.5 years.

Excellent post, Beautiful. I am a little over a month out and could have posted this word for word. I too gain strength from helping others. I have a blog, and a few women have contacted me through that. Just through our dialogue, relating to each other, understanding each other, it's been a huge help to me.
And Step 1- dead on. I felt great the first few days. I couldn't believe it. But, sure enough, a couple days after ending it, my world seemed to crumble. Thank God for this board and the strong women who told me it would pass. Guess what? It has. I know I am not out of the woods yet. Some women have gotten sucked back in after being NC for much longer than me, but my resolve is stronger than it's ever been... and crazily enough, my marriage is as strong as it been in a couple years.
I am not a proponent of A's. However, this experience has made me discover so much about myself and my H. It has taught me a valuable lesson about communication and commitment. I am not grateful for the A, because at one point I thought it was going to break me and it hurt my H more than anything ever has in his life, but I am grateful for the chance to reconnect with my H, learn to communicate with him and move forward.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Hi Sunshine,
If only I had known about EAS or seen a post like yours the first two times I tried to end my A. You describe the cycle so well. The first time I posted here, which was New Year's Day, I still honestly thought my situation was unique. Amazing what I've learned since then. Thank you for this post. I think it needs to go in the Healing Library, or somewhere it can be easily located for anyone who is looking for some words of wisdom.
CSN
couldntsayno, good point - I think at some point we all think our affairs were unique. I bet many of us have wondered why can't we just be friends, I don't want to lose this "friendship". When we start to