the power of 4 words

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the power of 4 words
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 2:50pm

This week has been up and down for me. I've been extremely busy at work, so I haven't had a lot of time to read, let alone post. Every time I start to feel myself slip into sadness, anger, pity or whatever the feeling du jour, I whisper to myself, "I have a choice." Especially with JAM. I choose to not let him get to me. I tell myself that I can think about him or be sad about him later. But not now. My life is MY choice and it no longer is influenced by anything having to do with XAP. Remind yourself that YOU have a choice - it's a pretty powerful thing.

Bodhi

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 2:58pm
Bodhi,
I LURVE this message. I am a firm believer in having choices - in fact I have the word CAN in vinyl on my wall - to remind me that I CAN choose - it gives me ability and more choices -
Thanks for sharing the power today
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 3:35pm

Si chica,

You have control, he no longer does. U no longer revolve around his clock, you set your own time clock and do what and when whenever....enjoy your new freedom free of another's control and full of new, healthy and better choices..

Brasos,

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 3:59pm

I have a label on the top of my monitor here at work. It says, "The Choice Is Yours" Of all the little stickies and motivational reminders I put up in the early ending, this is the only one that remains.

The choice is yours.

Dee

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 4:55pm

Such powerful words.

I too find such comfort is reminding myself:

The choice is yours.

So simple, yet so very true.

***

And this that E1 sent me:

God(ess)(s)/Universe:

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.

***

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 6:20pm

((Bodhi))

I can only begin to imagine how hard you have worked to get to this point, and for that I am very proud of you to focus on such a great choice! Thanks for this post. I have been focusing so hard on the bad, bad, bad choices I made for the A, that I have forgotten to acknowledge the good choices I have made for ME in the 2+ months since. It is nice to be reminded...THANKS!

And Luvin's message of freedom brought these lyrics to my mind. From none other than Xavier Rudd (you Aussies better know of this man!)

Xavier Rudd
Let Me Be

Oh oh, Let me be now
Hmm hmm, let me because
I want to be free now
Oh oh, free to see, yeah well
Want to walk away, oh oh
Let me feel my feet
Let me be, free

Anyone who wants a smile on your face and spring in your step, youtube it.

Wishing all my ender friends the power to make ME choices...
Peace&Light
Foggy

I do not know what is next in life...but at least I know what is NOT!
I do not know what is next in life...but at least I know what is NOT!
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 10:55pm

Bodhi- (hello btw)



Your post just hit me like a brick against my sad old head.



I have a choice.



wow



Thank you

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 7:23am

Hi Iggy :) I don't think we've met yet. I'm really glad you are here. Sometimes it's so simple - you just need reminding: I have a choice! Have a strong day (or night... you are on Aussie time. By buddy NC is teaching me all sorts of slang, so I'm ready for you!)

Bodhi

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Registered: 02-25-2010
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 8:57am

I cant speak for IGS, but Xavier who? ... i googled him .....might have to investigate further....pretty easy on the eye !! ;)



NC x

New Choices, New Chapter, New Challenges, New Commitment



NC since

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 9:18am

Hi Bodhi :)



NC- Yeah I thought I must have missed something there- not sure who Xavier Rudd is either. Phew glad it wasnt only me :)

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 03-21-2009
Sat, 09-11-2010 - 9:38am

Bodhi ~

So true. "True freedom and the end of suffering is living in such a way as if you had completely CHOSEN whatever you feel or experience at this moment." ~ Eckhart Tolle

Some here know what an extreme reaction I've had to my A experience. And how long I've been dealing with it.

I can see so clearly now how the past 3 years I've been an emotional cutter! I can remember days when my obsessive thoughts about XAP weren't enough to make me cry and feel the pain. So I would begin playing one of the songs from a list he had given me. That would do the trick. Give me a good "fix" so i could keep the real stuff from getting to me. That's just nuts!!

"What you resist persists" ~ I don't know who said that one. But I see how I was resisting facing what I really needed to face.

I'm still sad about many things of course. But now the sadness is based on reality not about losing AP. It's a more peaceful type of sadness.

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