the power of 4 words

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Registered: 06-17-2010
the power of 4 words
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 2:50pm

This week has been up and down for me. I've been extremely busy at work, so I haven't had a lot of time to read, let alone post. Every time I start to feel myself slip into sadness, anger, pity or whatever the feeling du jour, I whisper to myself, "I have a choice." Especially with JAM. I choose to not let him get to me. I tell myself that I can think about him or be sad about him later. But not now. My life is MY choice and it no longer is influenced by anything having to do with XAP. Remind yourself that YOU have a choice - it's a pretty powerful thing.

Bodhi

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 4:21pm

Bravo Bodhi. Keep reminding yourself of that until it totally sinks in. I have blogged about that very thing on multiple occasions. And even after 7 months, i still have to remind myself of that occasionally.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 09-12-2010 - 4:25pm

Bodhi,

Thanks for that...The choice is yours. At work this week when I finally acknowledged xAP after returning to work, the choice was mine to set the boundaries, and tell him what was appropriate. I will remind myself of those words often. THANKS.

MovingON

MovingON

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