By telling your xAP goodbye and then blocking (telling or not telling) is empowering to you. When we take that pathway to healing, it puts us in control. You are not left wondering what happened or why he (the AP) did what he did, etc... Now he might wonder, but that's another story, but it doesn't matter anyway. It's always been my opinion that when we are the one to do the ending, we are less susceptible to fishing attempts. We know we want it over with, we aren't burdened with all the drama and questions that so often plague an ending. What is important is you made that big step and you are determined to stay on the path to getting away from the affair and back to your real life.
Good for you, OAJ! It *is* empowering, as well as your ticket out of A-Limbo. When we know they can't contact us, we stop obsessing about it. Sure, your mind will still wander with thoughts of him, but as long as you don't act on any of them, you're protected. Eventually
Yes, what you are saying makes sense!!
By telling your xAP goodbye and then blocking (telling or not telling) is empowering to you. When we take that pathway to healing, it puts us in control. You are not left wondering what happened or why he (the AP) did what he did, etc... Now he might wonder, but that's another story, but it doesn't matter anyway. It's always been my opinion that when we are the one to do the ending, we are less susceptible to fishing attempts. We know we want it over with, we aren't burdened with all the drama and questions that so often plague an ending. What is important is you made that big step and you are determined to stay on the path to getting away from the affair and back to your real life.
Journey,
You absolutely make sense!
Good for you, OAJ! It *is* empowering, as well as your ticket out of A-Limbo. When we know they can't contact us, we stop obsessing about it. Sure, your mind will still wander with thoughts of him, but as long as you don't act on any of them, you're protected. Eventually
~Iddy~