I am not familiar with your story, but welcome back to the board and we'd sure love to have you here posting!
I am almost 7 months LC/NC ... a few bobbles, but no fall downs since that final ending. I do have to see my xAP occasionally, so I can relate to your angst, your fears and your worries on how you were perceived.
"I decided before the event to maintain NC, if possible.
Girl, you are a HERO in my eyes. You took your class act on the road and proved to yourself just how strong you really are. Who cares what he thought about yee'ol cold shoulder thing. If he has 1/2 a brain he would know just exactly what that was all about, and if perchance he had expectations for something else a'happening, too bad buddy. LJubica had an agenda she needed to stick too.....for the sake of your sanity AND self respect.
I am very proud of you. You did what had to be done. It's normal to 2nd guess oneself after the fact, especially if this is NOT who we really are, but sometimes a girl has to do what a girl has to do. Give it a couple of days...it will leave your system and you are going to be just fine.
I am really humbled and heartened by these responses.
Iddy, to have encouraging remarks from you is incredibly humbling. I have followed your story closely, and am in awe of what you achieve on a daily basis. I wish I had your strength and wisdom. I hope I have enough sense to learn from you. Thank you.
TU, I was touched and chuffed and really by what you said. I have been reading your posts on the board, and have been thinking about how much good sense you speak, and I am so grateful for your words, and for your contact. Your direct, clear and on-the-money analysis of my situation was just what I needed to read. You're so right. This was probably the moment I really came to term with: "facing for the LAST time that harsh reality that you will never ever be in one another's worlds again - and that that is the way it is meant to be, needs to be, and is going to be.".
You're right. That was probably contributing to the sense of weirdness. Thanks for calling it. Thanks for being direct with me. Thanks for your patience and understanding. I really appreciate it.
couldntsayno, your words really helped me today. We're not always tough. We're not always able to understand the implications of our decisions. I needed your empathy today. Thank you very much. And Dee, thank you for your unbelievable words of support and encouragement, which made me smile and cheer and hope.
I am blown away and moved by you all, and reminded how much we can be beacon for one another. I know my next step is to be there for those amongst us who are in those dark early days. The light you all showed me then is a big part of the reason I'm still around to have this conversation today. It sounds ridiculously overly dramatic, but, well, it is the truth.
Dear LT,
I am not familiar with your story, but welcome back to the board and we'd sure love to have you here posting!
I am almost 7 months LC/NC ... a few bobbles, but no fall downs since that final ending. I do have to see my xAP occasionally, so I can relate to your angst, your fears and your worries on how you were perceived.
"I decided before the event to maintain NC, if possible.
LT,
I struggle with this myself.
Ah, HELL NO, Girlfriend!
((Ljubica))
Girl, you are a HERO in my eyes. You took your class act on the road and proved to yourself just how strong you really are. Who cares what he thought about yee'ol cold shoulder thing. If he has 1/2 a brain he would know just exactly what that was all about, and if perchance he had expectations for something else a'happening, too bad buddy. LJubica had an agenda she needed to stick too.....for the sake of your sanity AND self respect.
I am very proud of you. You did what had to be done. It's normal to 2nd guess oneself after the fact, especially if this is NOT who we really are, but sometimes a girl has to do what a girl has to do. Give it a couple of days...it will leave your system and you are going to be just fine.
((Hugs))
Iddy, to have encouraging remarks from you is incredibly humbling. I have followed your story closely, and am in awe of what you achieve on a daily basis. I wish I had your strength and wisdom. I hope I have enough sense to learn from you. Thank you.
TU, I was touched and chuffed and really by what you said. I have been reading your posts on the board, and have been thinking about how much good sense you speak, and I am so grateful for your words, and for your contact.
Your direct, clear and on-the-money analysis of my situation was just what I needed to read. You're so right. This was probably the moment I really came to term with: "facing for the LAST time that harsh reality that you will never ever be in one another's worlds again - and that that is the way it is meant to be, needs to be, and is going to be.".
You're right. That was probably contributing to the sense of weirdness. Thanks for calling it. Thanks for being direct with me. Thanks for your patience and understanding. I really appreciate it.
couldntsayno, your words really helped me today. We're not always tough. We're not always able to understand the implications of our decisions. I needed your empathy today. Thank you very much.
And Dee, thank you for your unbelievable words of support and encouragement, which made me smile and cheer and hope.
I am blown away and moved by you all, and reminded how much we can be beacon for one another. I know my next step is to be there for those amongst us who are in those dark early days. The light you all showed me then is a big part of the reason I'm still around to have this conversation today. It sounds ridiculously overly dramatic, but, well, it is the truth.
Thanks guys. You rock.
xx