Pregnant by Married Marine

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Pregnant by Married Marine
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Wed, 12-15-2004 - 11:54am
Im almost on my 4 month and on my 2nd month I found out my baby daddy is married and has a newborn thats almost 4 months also. I just turned 21 so Im very confused about the whole situation and really dont want to hurt him. I spoke to his wife and found out things about him that I cant believe . I m so dissapointed at him. But I dont regret my baby in fact I m blessed and feel complete. I just dont know what to do anymore/? Doing this on my own is very hard...
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Registered: 07-23-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 4:41pm
Establish paternity when the child is born and get a court order for child support. Life teaches us difficult lessons but we become strong when we learn from them. Take care of yourself and your child.
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Registered: 08-13-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 8:12pm

Make sure you go through the courts and get paternity established, and get a court order to file with his command for child support. Get his SSN from his wife if you have to, or go directly to his command and explain the situation. He will have to make it an allotment from his military pay, and the Marines will send it directly to your bank account!! DO NOT trust him to voluntarily do this, you will need to back it up with a court order for the military to enforce should he decide to renege on any verbal agreement. Better to be safe than sorry.

Also, you can have the court specify that he must maintain the child as a dependent in the DEERS system to provide for Tricare (health insurance). If you enroll the baby on Prime, there are no copays for doctors within the network, and meds are either $3 for generic or $9 for named Rxs. Tricare will NOT cover your pregnancy however, but will cover the baby once born (You would need to ask if they would cover delivery itself..I don't think they will for a child whose mother is not also a dependent). It's Http://www.healthnetfederalservices.com so you can look into it.

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 4:02pm
Well thank you for your advice much appreciated //..Im lookin ginto all that righ tnow. I know I would have to get a paternity but iknow Marine Corp will pay. He alraedy informed me with that. So im not worried. But thanks so much. Well I work so I have insurance and evrything is paid for. So im very good, happy holidays
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Registered: 12-15-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 4:02pm
Thank you I will.
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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 7:09pm

Hi Gloria,

I as well have a now one year old by a MM, he too told me he would take care of our daughter, but I ended up taking him to child support. I made sure if nothing else that I had DNA testing done to ensure my babys future and made sure he was finanically responsible for her. When we went to child support he lied about his employment and his wages, but I had all is info so we are in the process of going back for remodification to get the correct amount of money he is suppose to pay a month. I don't regret my daughter either and there are plenty of single parents out there that do a wonderful job raising their children and I am sure you will be one of them.