Pulling out my hair this morning.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Pulling out my hair this morning.
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Mon, 02-02-2004 - 9:34am
Hi guys....need to vent again.

Remember last week when I said that xmm has been gone for 2 weeks and I had sent him an angry email about not hearing from him? I was really hoping that he would be walking on eggshells around me today because I don't want to have to deal with any of it anymore but what does he do???? He comes over to my desk, sits down across from me and starts asking me how my weekend was. Like NOTHING was wrong at all. Fortunately the boss called him in his office so he had to leave but not before we sat and CHATTED for a few minutes. It's so hard for me to be short with him when all I really want is to be with him. I think I'm going to continue to brush him off and maybe this will come to a head and it can be finally dealt with from both sides. ARGH!!!! Any advice?

OM4M

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 8:24pm
I know it's hard. You're still very emotionally invested in this relationship. Unfortunately, men are a lot better at compartmentalizing than women are -- think of how Bill Clinton ran the country while dealing with the fallout of his ill-thought-out affair.

You're best solution is to get busy and involved in your life and put this guy aside, where he belongs. He can pop in and chat and your heart is breaking. Do you need that kind of callous disregard for your feelings? I don't think so.

Hang in there kiddo -- this too shall pass and you can overcome this. He doesn't deserve your emotional energy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-04-2004 - 10:39am
Thanks so much for your reply. You are right on the money with your deduction too. He continues to come by and act like nothing's wrong. He did it again just a little while ago. Even asked me how MY family was doing...inside I'm just dying. I am finally starting a new hobby that hopefully will keep me occupied mentally but I only do it once a week, what about the other 6 days. I'm also trying very hard to find another job away from this company. I think that will help tremendously. Out of site, out of mind seems to help. Maybe I just need to invest more in the lottery. :) OMG I just looked at your profile and I'm a Capricorn too....

Thanks again.

OM4M