Quest. about xAP 'fishing', how likely?

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Registered: 07-26-2010
Quest. about xAP 'fishing', how likely?
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 9:08pm
I have been reading a lot about xAP's going fishing and was curious as to just how common this is after the affair has ended. Does it usually always happen even after a NC agreement? I know, probably an obvious question, of course they do. It almost seems like these xAP's have some sort of radar... just as we've finally gotten over them and gotten stronger, here they come, fishing and breaking NC... Or at least that seems to be the situation that I'm seeing a lot of here... makes me nervous for my own situation, and I know I need to probably prepare and put my armor on long before it actually happens.
As stated in a previous discussion, my xAP left things open and said he'd contact me in 6 months after he "gets his life together... said he doesn't want to screw things up with me because he only has one shot at making it work" HA! I realize now it's just him manipulating me, and I'm done with the A but I am really wondering what to expect down the road and am thinking about how I can handle it if he does ever try to contact me.
I've blocked him from my fb and I am fairly certain he doesn't have my cell number anymore so contacting me or fishing will be difficult for him. If he does "fish", I am hoping that I will have the guts to ignore him. I already feel myself getting stronger after reading this board and having you ladies support me.
I hope when the time actually comes, I'll be strong.


Edited 7/27/2010 9:10 pm ET by rose8800
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 10:05pm

Hi Rose,


I know you've been reading a lot here and from previous posts you will have an