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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2004
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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 2:37pm

I am having a difficult time and trying to understand my MM plight. I need some clarification;

He told me that his W wants a divorce and that lawyers are involved and papers are being drawn up and soon he will be served papers.

Also he tells me that he asked his W to take him back...and nothing yet. I am thinking that if the lawyers are involved and papers are being drawn up and sent out to him that it is a done deal.. No?

What did he mean he asked his W to talk him back. Does he think that she will take the papers and rip them up and reconcil? This has been going on since the summer.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: meadow423
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:28pm

Meadow

Divorces are canceled in the 11th hour all the time, papers do get ripped up or the couple never sign the final papers, SO it is possible she will want to take a final stab at saveing her marriage, it is easy to talk about divorce but doing it is much harder then people seem to think.

Free

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:46pm
And do you want him anyway...when he told you that he's asked her to take him back? What? is he "willing" to settle for you if she says no? What a jacka$$. Drop him...you're better than this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:54pm

Yes Meadow, it is possible that she just might rip up rhe papers even though they are already filed. I did it!! My XH had an affair 3 years ago and I left him and filed for D. about 4 months later he wanted me to come back, so we were sort of working on things while the D was in progress. I ended up calling my lawyer at 9:00 pm to cancel it, the night before it was to be final. We ended up getting back together for 1 year before neither of us wanted to with eachother anymore, so now we are really divorced. ( And I'm in the process of ending an A with a MM...... go figure!!)

And I really don't think he seems to be all that anyway, if he's thinking he'll take you, but only if he can't have his wife. That must really make you feel great!! Lose him honey!!

Good Luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 8:27pm

Oh, and by the way, Meadow,

My XH is now married to his OW, and they seem to be very happy together. So sometimes, it does happen.

Pal

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2004
In reply to: meadow423
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 10:04am

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Is this why you are having such difficulty in letting go? Only 2-5% AP's end up together, and that's only until one of them starts cheating again....happens often, if you read these boards.

**Id**

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2000
In reply to: meadow423
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 10:33am

Meadow...

Question for you: What does it matter, if you truly want to end the affair, which I assume you do since you're posting on this board? Look, if you want to end this, you need to stop second-guessing his business. You asked what it meant when he said he asked his wife to take him back. What do you think it means? It means that...he asked his wife to take him back. He doesn't want the marriage to be over. I don't know what he feels towards you, as you don't say it, but it's clear how he feels about her. He wants to stay married. This is a losing situation for you, and if you're smart, you'll get out of it...FOR GOOD.