Question about contact

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Question about contact
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Thu, 01-28-2010 - 9:40am

Hey folks,

I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this. But, I'm going to ask anyway. As I'd mentioned in my story, things had gotten physical the last time we saw each other, two weeks ago this Friday. Afterward, I don't know if it was just my general uneasiness about the whole thing, but I felt funny and thought '...what if I got pregnant?' I shared said concern and he said 'he'd be there for me' (hahahaha!). Though I knew it was a slim chance, it did play on my mind. My sister got prego on the pill and condoms aren't 100% either. Anyway, period started today (yay! and boo! I don't need this hormonal mess on top of everything else! Not.Helping! sigh), so question is - do I tell him that I'm not? Part of me thinks maybe he doesn't care either way, or that I should let him sweat about something for a change, and another part of me (possibly still in a bit of 'the fog'?) thinks that it wouldn't be very 'fair' for me to do that, and that I should let him know. (For those who haven't read any of the back story, he ended it suddenly on Sunday night, I'm going on day 4 NC). I'm following the 'tips to help you adhere to NC' in that I can't say I'm 'tempted have my email browser open', but that I was wondering. So instead of doing so, I'm coming here to talk about it.
Thoughts?

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'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

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Registered: 10-12-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 9:50am
Are you crazy? NO NO NO.....do not e-mail him to tell him that. I can tell you it will backfire and if he responds....what if he says "Thank Goodness" How will you read into that? Nothing good can come of it. It is an excuse you are trying to use to break NC. I am sure he is not stressing about it, and he will just assume you are not pregnant. Don't mean to be harsh, but any excuse for conact always ends up to be more pain. Just be relieved you are not pregnant and take it as
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 9:53am

Aren't we all a little crazy? I kid, I kid.

No, I know that was the answer I'd get/the right thing to do. Just having a blah/weak moment, but instead of doing it I came here to more than likely get a boot in the arse for even thinking it ;)
So, thank you. And thank you for the hugs!
((hugs!))

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'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

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Registered: 01-16-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 10:08am
Here's another boot in the arse. Don't do it!
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Registered: 10-12-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 10:47am
You are right...I am about as crazy as they come right now being at Day 3 NC. I just feel like I can at least sound sane to someone then maybe I can pretend to be normal right now. Although I feel far from it!!