Question about NO CONTACT

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Question about NO CONTACT
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 7:48pm
Hi, Im trying very hard to do no contact, It hasnt been long but I was wondering this: What do you do in terms of no contact when you run into the OM, he sometimes goes to the same places we go and I see him around town, not meaning to, He always kisses girls on the cheek and It would be very obvious and akward if I totally shunned him, so do I just pretend like nothing ever happened between us? Am I suppose to leave my friends because he shows up, and go home? Also (this is the bad part) he is "friends" with my husband and calls sometimes to see what "we" are up to! What am I suppose to say when he calls...? How do I sound like I dont want him on the phone without being a complete bitch?... I know it is one of those "what if" scenerios but I just want to be prepared because I know in my heart that the only way to finally move on from this is NC. Thanks for any advice on this.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:02pm
Kat

Here is an idea or two for you.

When he wants to kiss you SNEEZE, yes sneeze on him, he will stop approaching you pretty soon if it happens every time he tries.

Your busy and don't have the time to talk right now, you can have your phone company block hi number so it does not ring through, or you could just tell him not to call, the truth is he stopped being your husbands friend the second he entered a affair with his wife what he is is a hipocrite and no friend to you or your husband.

There is no reason you have to make him feel WELCOME in your life or home.

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 12:58am
I agree with mefreenow, this man you call *friend* is NO FRIEND to either you or your DH! He betrayed your DH's friendship when he crossed the line with you! And he's betraying you by knowing that you will allow him to walk all over YOU b/c the two of you share a secret!

Don't let him walk all over you and your DH!

When he calls, repeatedly tell him to stop calling. Period!

When you run into him, and he's making his kissing the ladies rounds, walk away and use the restroom. Treat him like you would treat anyone you do not want to see!