Question for everyone

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Question for everyone
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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:37pm

If you had the opportunity to start up again with your MM would you?

We ended on very friendly terms and recently we've been speaking on the phone and thru emails again - its all been very friendly, yet he seems to be "fishing" for information. How are things at home with my M... Have I met anyone else, etc. The last time I spoke to him I came right out as asked - Are you looking to start things up again? From the questions you're asking me it certainly seems so. He said Yes, he'd like too if I'm up for it.

A little background about us: We were never in love with each other. It was strictly intimate friends, very good friends as a matter of fact. We both weren't looking to end our M's. It was very fun and I learned alot about myself while with him. It lasted about 5 months. The last time we were together physically was in early Nov.

Anyway, I'm still contemplating what I'm going to do. I told him I need to think about it. I'm just curious what everyone else would do if you found yourself in that situation.

Thanks

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:55pm

NO

Nothing in life comes free sooner or later someone has to pay for you bit of fun and that someone will include your husband and children if you have any, BUT you will pay more then the rest because hence forth your going to find losts of men to FU$K but VERY FEW ever trust a CHEATER enought to marry them and word will get out.

Way do you not divorce your husband and let him begin the recovery process now so that he can go on to meet and marry someone who wants the job of faithful wife and friend, a job you don't seem that interested in anyway.

There is a big difference between falling into a affair and the COLD CALCULATING thing you seem to do.

WOULD YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO SOMEONE LIKE YOU, not likely, would your husband if he really knew you ???????

Think about it what goes around comes around, the Karma express may run you down at any time with out warning.

NO CONTACT

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2005
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:56pm

No never!!!!! The pain I have been in and I am still in is too much. I never will ever get involved with a man if he is attached elsewhere. I don't want to feel that supressed and hiding and lying to friends and co-workers. Never being able to tell the world freely how much I love this person. Walking around with my head down b/c I have a terrible secret. No never, I never want to feel that way. For 1 yr our relationship was physical and thru email but as time went on, we got more serious. Now I'm in such a dark place, I didn't see myself getting to be this bad b/c I was such a strong person before. That's what he loved about me. Don't do it.

Robin

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 2:03pm

Kat

I cant say I am strong enough to say no. We are 6 weeks out. I can say I woudlnt want certain things about our A to ever happen again. But I cant say for sure I wouldnt want MM in my life to soem extent. Just not that strong i guess...maybe never will be!

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 2:05pm

hey kats,

in the end its all up to you if u want to live that life, my personal opinion is i will never get involve with someone who is not "free"

the pain of it is not worth it

i hope u find what u are looking for

max

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 5:48pm

Kats

In your shoes I would walk away..... Just my 2 cents.

Avoid any future complications.

Good Luck
Ladybug