Question for MW whose A W found out

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Registered: 10-14-2009
Question for MW whose A W found out
Thu, 10-15-2009 - 6:04pm

Heres my question and I found it interesting. When my A called to say his W found out it was obviously devastating but what was your first thought? Was is that he was going to end the A, or was it that his W would tell your H???

For me, even though I think I would have left my H for him, my first thought was that H would find out. So far, that has not happened and through all the sadness I am so thankful for that. Cause in the end, if a Marriage ends, it shouldn't be that way. Even though I am still so sad, my life with my family is no different than it was before, while his will never be quite the same. We were both equally guilty for how we fell in love and let it get out of hand so I do feel so bad for him. I want to feel bad for her, but like many others on this board, I don't know her, nor have I gotten much positive feelings about her cause they were all from him. If she is really as he described, he will try but in the end, he will never be happy with her.