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| Tue, 01-11-2005 - 6:03pm |
Hi,
It is nice to have a mans point of view on this whole subject.
But I have a few questions, if you dont mind answering them.
By no means are you under interrogation, I know how I feel on this subject and I too am married with children, so I know how tuff it is on every emotional level.
In one of the threads you said that you would do anything for OW but leave W and C for her.
Why??
Is it financial?
Is it emotional
My xmm would say that he wasnt in Love with his W but he loved her and that he was content.
xmm would constintley ask me when I was going to leave my H. But when I asked him the same questions he would say that I was putting the pressure on him and I was acting desperate.
Do you feel pressured by Ow?
Thanks for your time and remember were all in this together
Onthegochick

Onthegochick, did you mean your questions to be directed to me, cl-noregretsever?
If so, I think you misunderstood my post.
I am already divorced from wife #1 and now married to the former AP/OW, wife #2. I no longer and haven't participated in affairs for over 7 years now.
For the prior 17 years I deluded myself into thinking I had to stay in the first marriage "for the kids" and because I knew the financial havoc that my ex-w would wreak upon the kids and our personal finances with her "scorched earth" mentality that she had threatened for many of those 17 years. SO I let my fears of the unknown govern my thoughts and actions rather than my ability to believe in myself to see my way through a divorce and protect my kids and myself. True to form, ex-w did wreak financial havoc upon us to the tune of over $500,000 impact, quite a bit of it permanent in nature.
I wasn't "pressured" per se by xOW, however, after 3 years of waiting she had made it clear that she was moving on with life and wished me well and if I ever got myself single to come and look her up and see where it might go. It still took