Question for noregrets2004

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Question for noregrets2004
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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 6:03pm

Hi,

It is nice to have a mans point of view on this whole subject.

But I have a few questions, if you dont mind answering them.

By no means are you under interrogation, I know how I feel on this subject and I too am married with children, so I know how tuff it is on every emotional level.
In one of the threads you said that you would do anything for OW but leave W and C for her.
Why??
Is it financial?
Is it emotional
My xmm would say that he wasnt in Love with his W but he loved her and that he was content.
xmm would constintley ask me when I was going to leave my H. But when I asked him the same questions he would say that I was putting the pressure on him and I was acting desperate.
Do you feel pressured by Ow?
Thanks for your time and remember were all in this together
Onthegochick

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 6:29pm

Onthegochick, did you mean your questions to be directed to me, cl-noregretsever?


If so, I think you misunderstood my post.


I am already divorced from wife #1 and now married to the former AP/OW, wife #2. I no longer and haven't participated in affairs for over 7 years now.


For the prior 17 years I deluded myself into thinking I had to stay in the first marriage "for the kids" and because I knew the financial havoc that my ex-w would wreak upon the kids and our personal finances with her "scorched earth" mentality that she had threatened for many of those 17 years. SO I let my fears of the unknown govern my thoughts and actions rather than my ability to believe in myself to see my way through a divorce and protect my kids and myself. True to form, ex-w did wreak financial havoc upon us to the tune of over $500,000 impact, quite a bit of it permanent in nature.


I wasn't "pressured" per se by xOW, however, after 3 years of waiting she had made it clear that she was moving on with life and wished me well and if I ever got myself single to come and look her up and see where it might go. It still took