All the excuses? I don't think so. At least not to the women or my ex-w. To myself, yes, a lot of times. I spent about 10 years telling myself that I'd wait it out until the youngest was "old enough" and a divorce "wouldn't affect her"......or I'd wonder if my stbx would make life miserable for everyone because I left the marriage. And then I'd make up in my head all the horrible things my wife might do.
Well, I found out there is no reason to wait for that "perfect moment" to leave a disaster. And all those things I made up in my head don't even begin to come close to the sheer hell my ex-w decided to inflict on the kids.....
Yet, here we are, several years later. Kids are OK. More than OK. They know that dad loves them and never stopped loving them, despite what mom tried to convince them of. They know dad does love their mom and simply can't live with daily arguing as an acceptable pattern of life. And they know that dad's wife is his last GF/OW and that he's human, not
All the excuses? I don't think so. At least not to the women or my ex-w. To myself, yes, a lot of times. I spent about 10 years telling myself that I'd wait it out until the youngest was "old enough" and a divorce "wouldn't affect her"......or I'd wonder if my stbx would make life miserable for everyone because I left the marriage. And then I'd make up in my head all the horrible things my wife might do.
Well, I found out there is no reason to wait for that "perfect moment" to leave a disaster. And all those things I made up in my head don't even begin to come close to the sheer hell my ex-w decided to inflict on the kids.....
Yet, here we are, several years later. Kids are OK. More than OK. They know that dad loves them and never stopped loving them, despite what mom tried to convince them of. They know dad does love their mom and simply can't live with daily arguing as an acceptable pattern of life. And they know that dad's wife is his last GF/OW and that he's human, not
Edited 10/1/2004 6:28 pm ET ET by sally289
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