Question from a wife..please read
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| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:30am |
He told me the marriage was over last Oct. I moved back home with my family in another state. We have gone back and forth and back and forth over this marriage. Well after light was shed that he had asked the MW to leave her H or either they couldnt see each other anymore. She didn't and for a while they stopped seeing each other. This was the time he called and emailed me want our marriage to work and he wanted to move here with me and my son. After more drama and lies, we called things off but still talked. Then about 3 weeks ago I told him I was letting him go so he could be with who he wanted to be with.
Well he got kicked out of his parents house and now is living with a women who is his Mom's age (nothing going on) I even found out this women offered for him and the MW to live there and she was going to leave her 2 yo son behind with her H.
My questions is I know it has to be painful for him as I know he loves this OW. And with the past 2 days recent discussions I told him I know that he was seeing her still and that he needed to decide first what he was going to do with that situation and he played dumb but I know. He even said he was thinking of coming here again! I didn't ask him to.
I know it must be painful to end an affair with someone you have connect with and loved and I am sure it hurts that she hasn't left her H for him. How do you guys deal with that time of pain and anxiety and truely trying to end an affair? How long does it last, the withdrawls from another person?
Any advice or thoughts would help me tremendously. I still love this man and I don't know why and know I would be stupid to even think of taking him back but I do care and love him.
