quick question

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Registered: 04-22-2004
quick question
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 8:53am
Does the spouse always find out? Are there any cases where they didn't and life just went on?
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 9:28am
I read an article somewhere that stated that in the majority of EMAs, the spouse does NOT find out. I don't know how people go about tracking those kinds of statistics, though, so take it with a grain of salt.

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 9:47am
Neither spouse knows in our case. But they do feel *something* is amiss.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 10:03am


No not all affairs are found out but in most cases the spouse knows something is wrong even if they cannot pin point it.

But with this problem becoming more common more spouse are learning what the indicators of cheating are and more are catching on faster, more PIs making more money off of it.

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Registered: 05-28-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 10:47am
If they don't find out -mine did, but my XMM's W was just paranoid about all other women- well, they usually suspect something. You really can't hide it for a long time, spouses who have been together for a long time get more intuitive about things like this and realise when something is going on.
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Registered: 04-03-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 11:07am
My xMM's W eventually found out. But, before W found out she sensed it for a couple of months and questioned xMM alot about it. She knew something was going on with him but couldn't quite pin point what it was.

I have heard many times that spouses can sense an A.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 11:53am
I also replied to your question on the My Affair board. But these ladies are right, sometimes the spouse suspects something but they're just not sure what. My MM said his W was making little comments about things, like not being able to reach him during the afternoon sometimes. So that made him end it (for now anyways, I hope its not forever).

But his W would really have nothing to go on, I don't know her, she would never really be able to pin anything on him, I'm pretty sure. We were really discreet.

As for me, whenever I knew I was going to meet MM that day, I would email H and tell him I had a meeting or something like that so he wouldn't try to get ahold of me during the time I was gone from work.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 2:06pm

Katy, I hate to disagree with you, but an affair can be hidden for a long time. It takes a lot of work and an affair partner who's a real good liar. Where I didn't outright