I wonder the same thing at times, and I guess it's a part of a process - you have to go through this phase of reflection before you'll accept that...well, it just doesn't really matter one way or the other. You will never get the answers, and this is just how it is. Whether he cared or not, whether he loved you or not, whether he just used you and then discarded you and went on his merry way without a second thought, whether he lied to you when he said this or that - what difference does it all make now?
End result is the same - he is still married and is sh@#tting all over himself that he still may be found out. Come on, Alice.
I have to go but later will post something that may be helpful. The quick answer is it all really does not matter. Simply does not. N yes we all take it personally. Alot of what exap's do we take is not personal to us. I am speaking of serial cheaters. This stuff is like second nature to them. They do it so well n for so long that it becomes second nature to them.
Hi Alice,
I just found out my x-AP has been lying to me too - all along and right now I'm asking myself the very same thing,
Hey Alice.
I wonder the same thing at times, and I guess it's a part of a process - you have to go through this phase of reflection before you'll accept that...well, it just doesn't really matter one way or the other. You will never get the answers, and this is just how it is.
Whether he cared or not, whether he loved you or not, whether he just used you and then discarded you and went on his merry way without a second thought, whether he lied to you when he said this or that - what difference does it all make now?
End result is the same - he is still married and is sh@#tting all over himself that he still may be found out. Come on, Alice.
Love,
Gone
Alice,
I have to go but later will post something that may be helpful. The quick answer is it all really does not matter. Simply does not. N yes we all take it personally. Alot of what exap's do we take is not personal to us. I am speaking of serial cheaters. This stuff is like second nature to them. They do it so well n for so long that it becomes second nature to them.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Alice,
I, too, have suffered with wondering if our relationship was all lies.