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| Sun, 01-30-2011 - 11:23pm |
I wanted to say that TODAY, I really noticed that any feelings that remained about jam, have shifted from sadness and loss (grief) to relief.
| Sun, 01-30-2011 - 11:23pm |
I wanted to say that TODAY, I really noticed that any feelings that remained about jam, have shifted from sadness and loss (grief) to relief.
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And you SHOULD be loving YOU all the way till the end.
Thanks Mom!!!!
You love spreader you!!!!!!
Same back to you!!!!
xoxo,
Michelle
So happy to read this post ... I liken the healing process to a spiral. You slowly circle out of the depths of despair as you make the climb upwards - always aware of where it is you have come and sometimes circling back to a familiar point on the spiral. BUT you are never back to where you started. YOU are always from a higher, more informed perspective. The feelings related to ending an affair are always in flux, moment to moment sometime, but the further out you are, the more stable those emotions will feel. That's how it feels to me anyway. I can have hard and heavy feelings, but I am never down as long as I was before nor as deep.
Much Love,
TU.
Thanks TU!!!!
for putting in a forest through the trees approach - which YOU always do so well....and I pick up on so easily!!!!
ITS EXACTLY as you described it!
Cycling.
Only each time...More clarity...More peace....More freedom.
I used to think I needed a relationship to "process" my issues - my baggage - but Im finding that there are all kind of opportunities to apply my boundaries, responsibility and anti-co.d behaviors in OTHER settings - which has given me ALOT of perspective on giving equal weight to MYSELF in ANY situation (wherever I go...there I am) Not just within the context of an A or Relationship.
I credit all the wonderful help, support, and HEALTH I've received here - to setting me on this HEALTHY TRACK.
Thank you so much, Truly...for being a HUGE part of that health for me!!!!
xoxo,
Michelle
Per usual, TU hit the nail on the head. It is a cycle, and I can so clearly remember the first time I felt real relief. Oh what a feeling. I literally jumped up and down on my bed while blasting The Ting Tings on my iPod. It was fantastic and then I cycled back through the garbage again- this time with a little more clarity.
I have to say, I still cycle after a year, but each time it gets easier. Each time you have more clarity under your belt, more detachment from those raw emotions, and you cycle right on through to the next happy moment.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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