ran into the WIFE this week she knows

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Registered: 12-04-2004
ran into the WIFE this week she knows
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Sat, 12-18-2004 - 9:30pm

I saw his wife this week. She knows her husband and I are friends or were friends. He told her I was chasing him. That is NOT the truth. Anyway our (the wife and me) paths crossed this week. She made sure that I noticed her. I feel terrible!!! I know she must be sickened by the sight of me. What am I supposed to say or do?

My affair did not get to the SEX yet but I'm sure it would have if the spouses hadn't found out. I'm not sure she or my husband believe that though. I have had no contact with OM in quite awhile and am trying to keep it that way. It is very difficult. I miss him very much, the way he made me feel, laugh etc. I crave his friendship and I've never been so attracted to someone. He is beautiful! What should I say or do the next time I run into her. We live in a small town and I know I will see her again. Help!!!!!

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 2:05am

Why do you feel obligated to say " Anything " to her? Is it that you at least want to let her know that you were not chasing him, perse? Or do you want to apologize or what? Exactly what do you think she needs to hear from you?

I do not think that you should say anything to her. Why would you want to? What good would it do? And don't misunderstand me. I, myself am the OW in my relationship. And not once have I ever said anything to his W about what's going on between OM and myself.

Honey.