Ran into xap last night

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Registered: 12-11-2009
Ran into xap last night
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 10:42am
So the city I live in put on a function for all of the local merchants who want to participate to promote their product. It was a blast, with live bands and beer flowing. I was there with all of my wonderful coworkers (H was working late). It was wall to wall people and in this sea of faces I see his. He spots me and comes over to give me a hug. I was quite cold, giving a half smile and not engaging in any conversation. I could tell he was embarrassed by my response. Honestly though, I felt absolutely nothing. Funny thing is, I remember him being a lot better looking. He continued to stay around the area I was in. He would flirt with all the beautiful women (he's single), and I could see out of the corner of my eye that he was looking to see if I was watching. I didn't feel any jealousy or anything. It was actually a blessing running into him because I can honestly say now that I feel "indifference". Wow, only 3 months NC and I can say that! So there is hope ladies, because I never thought I would get there and here I am!!!
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 11:08am

Amazing!

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 2:50pm
Great job taking the high road, Acti!
I'm so surprised your xAP didn't have more shame than to treat you so casually. Cad. Oh, well -- he's not your problem anymore. Whoop! Indifference... ah, the goal of goals! Congratulations for reaching it!
xo
Dee
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Registered: 10-25-2009
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 6:24pm

Congrats, AAI.

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:30am

I could've written this post.

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 11:22am

AAI -


Wow! This post is inspirational to me.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:18pm

AAI,

I'm sorry this is the first time I read your thread but to be honest, I was afraid to. I just wasn't up for dishing out more tough love this last weekend. But....what a pleasant surprise to read this:

<<< It was actually a blessing running into him because I can honestly say now that I feel "indifference".>>

This is MAJOR! Isn't it the best of the best to NOT feel anything? To realize they are JAM and that they no longer have any power over your emotions? What a gift, AAI, and whatever you are doing to have gotten here so quickly, Keep It Up! ;-)

I'm doing the Happy Dance!

((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-23-2010
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 5:42pm
I can't wait to feel this way!