Ran into xMM at WALMART

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Ran into xMM at WALMART
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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 10:40pm

And yes, it was horrible.

My mom was here with my son, so H and I decided to make an impromptu grocery run. I thought I spotted xMM when I was coming in the door, but after 20 minutes when I didn't see him I assumed I was wrong.

While picking up salsa, I rounded the corner and ran right into him and his four kids. I looked right at him, he looked away. If I had never seen him again, it would have been a thousand times better than having him look straight through me like he didn't even know me. Of all the things he said and did, this is among the worst.

I was freaked out and jittery and my H kept asking me what was wrong. I relied on the same old headach excuse.

The worst part was that we had to finish shopping, so I trudged behind H while he browsed and xMM and his kids followed us up and down the aisles. It was total sh!t!

For any of you who wonder what it would be like to run into the xMM again, pray you don't!
I only hope it's another three months before I have to ever run into him again, because that's how long it will take to forget that blank look in his eyes.

To answer a question from earlier on the board, NO they don't care anymore, there is no emotion left, or he is the best damn actor I've ever seen.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 10:44pm

Shel

Bet that was fun NOT.

His following you up and down the aisles was that on purpose or just bad luck ?

Free

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 11:04pm

Shel,

((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

MAN, Shel, that SUCKS!!!! I can't even imagine how crappy that must have felt!! Do you drink? If so, now's a good time to have one...maybe two, or three! :-)

If you haven't read my "Happy Bunny" post yet, now would be a good time. You may want to go out and get a copy of the book!

Bleh - I wish I had some helpful words here, but I don't. As we've discovered on this board, men and women react differntly. Just because he acted like an a$$ doesn't mean he wasn't affected by seeing you too.

Know that I am thinking about ya and I luv ya!!

Diva

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 10:08am

Fun, no. Theraputic, maybe?

After dwelling on it all night, I am so mad at him, I think it has moved me forward in my recovery. I know for SURE he will never be calling me again. His utter lack of emotion and total avoidance let me know that he has moved on and it's time I do the same.

I think the following was just a sad coincidence. You know how you tend to shop, up and down the aisles to the end, that's all we were doing.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 10:11am

Diva,

As always, thanks for the hugs!

I'll read your post, I could use some words of wisdom today.

I hope he did react to seeing me. I hope he took one look and realized that he f-ed up, in every way possible. And I hope he spent as much time tossing and turning as I did last night.

In some ways, I think this has helped me move into the next phase of my recovery. No more wondering if he'll suddenly call or e-mail. The blank stare lets me know that it's time to really move on. No slim hope left.

Thanks for the feedback friend! Onward and upward, Shel

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 11:27am

Shel -

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So, see? Some good can come out of this. I haven't seen my xOM since mid November - I can imagine that seeing him would probably be like a jolt back to the reality of what took place. That could be what happened for him. And as we have discussed on other threads, men tend to keep their feelings hidden. I'm sure he didn't want you to see him flustered. Plus, if you were with your H, he probably didn't want to draw attention to himself.

Stay strong Hunney Bunney!!

Diva

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 4:41pm

Hi Shel

Maybe the fact that his children where with him also had alot to do with his reaction. I dont know the circumstances behind your affair but maybe that to has alot to do with his reaction as well. Men do tend to hide there feelings, they are stronger than we are in that sense. Just be lucky that he didnt approach you in a different matter, How would that have made you feel. It happened to me at the supermarket on the 31st of Dec. It was the worst feeling on earth because I had had no contact with him for a long time, and I thought he was done and moved on, Boy was I wrong in that encounter he asked me to go back. I was in a daze for weeks but managed to maintain no contact with him as of today. I am determined to forget and move on. I hope you can too.

Hang in there hunny it does get better.......
Ladybug