rare situation...need help!

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Registered: 11-15-2009
rare situation...need help!
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Sun, 11-15-2009 - 4:15am
Hi! this is my first post but i have been lurking on and off throughout my 3 year affair. Our afffair began 3 years ago when we were both married. It was very intense and became a PA very quickly. My xap became very clingy, jealous and possesive. altho he continued to stay married, my H and i divorced ( he was unfaithful). Throughout the A ..xap's W caught us 4 times and each time we both denied a PA. As time went on, i ws desperate to be out of this situation, i even relocated to another state this spring, but the hold he had on me only became tighter. He assured me that it was time to leave his W and for me to prepare to move back home so we could be together. I had attempted NC several times and he pursued me to no avail:(
"Women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships" -Sharon Stone

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 2:52pm

Here's the thing:

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 3:16pm

Hi S,


It’s good you are reading here and ah ha moments are always enlightening. It is good that you see the importance of NC. Which leads me to ask about your phone?


You said he was controlling. Just because he is taking a break from the text messages does not mean he won’t try again. If you don’t change your phone number, you are leaving the door open for him to contact you. Why would you do that?


I don’t know how someone would have enough time to send 200 text messages in one day.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 4:41pm
i am beginning to see how unrare this is:) i changed my phone number today..putting myself on my mothers plan. Thank GOD i live in another state and no longer in the same town. and after reading all i have here and reveiwing the last 3 i am
"Women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships" -Sharon Stone
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 4:55pm

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I'm doing a happy dance for you. That is awesome.


<<i made my first T appt for friday>>


That is doubly awesome!!!


S, you may indeed be

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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