Reaching out - need advice please

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Reaching out - need advice please
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:54pm

Hello All ~



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 3:23pm

Hi CG :)



I think you can get ideas from the folks here as to what is taking place (and mine's coming :), but it sounds to me that sitting with a


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 4:46pm

Hi CG,



You could be addicted to the “feeling” of falling in love.



It could be that you use sex as a form of control or manipulation. Get the person interested and enticed and then use it as a form of control.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:01pm

The one thing that stuck out to me in your post is the underlying "more, more, more.

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 6:36pm

Well there's a new one for the abbreviations list...... i got the gist of it but had to google the literal translation

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 9:05am

CG,
Just a thought... do you think that you might have deep seated issues with H and your M that you're not addressing and that you're sabotaging your M in a back-door way? I agree with all that you really should be discussing this in therapy. Control issues, sexual addiction, subconscious self-destruction, narcissistic tendencies? None of us here are qualified to diagnose or treat your state. What I can say, though, is that irrespective of your _feelings_, you have it within your power to control your behavior. Setting up boundaries - very clear black and white rules for conduct - will keep you from acting on unhealthy impulses.

Best of luck to you.
Dee

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 3:01pm

Thank you to all of you.