Ready to introduce myself

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2009
Ready to introduce myself
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Sat, 02-05-2011 - 1:46pm

Hi everyone,

I have been a lurker for a very long time (probably at least a year at this point).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 2:02pm

Just wanted to welcome you to EAS officially Alive.

I think way too many women turn over their lives over to the men in their life.

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 3:11pm

AA,

I have been looking for your post and am so happy you finally came out from behind your monitor.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2010
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 5:08pm
Welcome Alive! I remember you and your story. I'm glad you've said enough! I said it 10 weeks ago and so much healing has happened in that time. Clarity will come with time but for now just take some deep breaths and relax. Consider going to a T, it has been so helpful for me in my seach for me. One thing in your post struck me, when your xap kept saying 'I don't know what to do'. At the end that's what my xap said many times. And the truth is that there is nothing you can do to make the A work. It just doesn't work. So kudos to you for doing the right thing and now you can begin the process of self discovery and the wonderful opportunities that will come your way. Hugs to you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 5:33pm

Welcome Alive :)

I want you to walk in my fresh snow too! And you've already prepared for 3 weeks! I'm so glad you've decided to post - that's a great step. Like Iddy said, don't rush it - just "be" for right now. A blank slate is a beautiful thing. You have a tremendous opportunity - like I do - to start from scratch. There is nothing "wrong" with you. Getting "out" IS easier said than done. I've been on this journey for about 8 months now, and I'm just starting to do things. It takes time, and it's not a race. Keep reading and posting - you'll get there. :)

Bodhi

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 7:11pm

Hello Alive,

I am happy that you are posting and no longer lurking.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 7:33pm
Alive, what a wonderful strong woman you are! To be raising a beautiful child on your own, to have endured the highs and lows of your exAPs move, and to have ended your A because you could see that it was destroying your life. I take my hat off to you.

I'm a mother in my 30s too and was involved in a LDA on and off for 6 years until I ended things 13 days ago. Joining this board is one if the best things I've ever done for myself and my children. The support and insights offered here are incredible.

I look forward to seeing you heal and grow as you begin to walk a new path that is right and good for you. Just keep reminding yourself - no contact means no new hurts.

Sunshine, hope, and smiles

Kat
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2010
Sat, 02-05-2011 - 10:55pm
Alive...welcome to EAS. The boards are generally quieter on the weekend - so I'm suire you'll get more welcomes as Monday rolls around. 3 weeks NC is great! :). Keep posting and reading whenever you need the support.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2009
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 3:18pm

Thank you so much Iddy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2009
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 3:22pm
Thank you for the welcome. I have thought about going back to my T but I havent done so yet. I did see her for a few sessions right after he moved because I was so depressed I was finding it difficult to even breathe. But I stopped. At the time I knew that there would be no more progress to be made until I ended the affair, and I wasnt ready to do that at that point yet. I will probably go back soon.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2009
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 3:24pm
Thank you Bodhi. Your posts have given me strength these past few months and I look forward to being able to participate with everyone now.

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