Realization (head vs heart)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2005
Realization (head vs heart)
1
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:00pm

I was thinking that full healing will occur when I realize that my xMM is not different than any other. I want to think that my MM is different from the others I read about here, but then I see all the similarities, all the stories that could have come from my own situation. I think that we all think that our MM is different, and that is why we hang on. Once we realize that he's not, we can let go.

I have conflictions because even though my head states all that stuff up there, my heart hasn't caught up yet. In my heart, I know he's different than any other. I know he's a good man. I know that he loves me and just got caught up and is having a hard time right now. I know that he's never lied to me. I know that everything he has told me about his W and their homelife is true. I know that he isn't sleeping with her. I know that he loves me and doesn't love her and is only there for the kids. In my heart, I want him to flirt with me, kiss me, make love to me.

So now for what my head says: DON'T LISTEN TO THE HEART - IT DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING RIGHT NOW - IT'S BEEN STUPEFIED BY "LOVE". ONCE YOU START LISTENING TO ME (HEAD) THEN EVERYTHING WILL BE OK!!!

I'm not yet at the point where I tell my heart to shut up to hear my head, but I know that I will get there :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2004
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 12:05am

just let it all out, your feelings i mean, we all think our MM/OM/MW/OW is different, yes they are different, but they all have one thing in common and that is they lied to us

they lied because they also live in that fantasy world

so now we know and knowing is only half the battle

max