Really Looking at XAP - Physical Looks?

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Really Looking at XAP - Physical Looks?
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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 3:40pm

I did not know how to put that discussion title out there, but I read somewhere ( maybe it was even here) about when we have A's, that we date down so to speak.


I was thinking about my XAP and I realized, what

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 4:31pm

Yes I am definitely understanding where you're coming from!

My xAP has a really fat stomach, is not that great looking (but I believed so at the time!), overeats and eats too fast, burps way way too much, binge drinks, smokes pot to 'escape' from RL etc etc etc...

On the other hand, my beautiful H takes care of himself, has a nice body, runs and lifts a few weights, has the most gorgeous smile, and is the most caring and best communicator ever.

WHAT IS WITH THAT??!! My H still shakes his head and just can't believe why I 'fell for' xAP......!

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Registered: 10-08-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 4:40pm
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Edited 2/25/2010 10:46 am ET by jilly1983
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 6:04pm

Hmm...


2 sides to this.

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 6:15pm
Well, his overall "physique" isn't bad...he is tall ( I like tall men), has big broad shoulders, narrow waist and long legs...but naked, he's got a poochy belly and it's starting to show through his shirt,
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Registered: 12-11-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 7:19pm
Jilly, I'm sooooo with you. My xap was beautiful inside and out. My husband is beautiful inside, however outwardly, uggg! Short, fat, bald and aging terribly. I'm sure this sounds extremely shallow, but isn't it important to have a physical attraction to our mates? Just posing the question because I have been struggling with this for years and I believe this is also why I had the affair and I'm so afraid it could happen again.
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Registered: 05-18-2007
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 8:45pm

Xap was beautiful IMO. She was curvy (I like the extra weight) and had a very pretty face. Cannot compare to H as men and women are apples and oranges. Her attitude sucked sometimes.


H is handsome to me - I'm sure he is not to every woman. He has a wonderful personality - patient, kind, gentle, giving. Everyone who gets to know him loves him. It's hard not to because he treats everyone nicely and is helpful to others.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 8:51pm

I'm sorry, but this tread is cracking me UP!
How are all these dudes (and chick) getting so much play!?
There is something to this but I think I'd need a Psych PhD to figure it out.

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Registered: 10-14-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 9:02pm

XAP -- scores a 9.5
Dw ---- 9
XAPDH === 8
Cheater Husband - Quite High

"You Cant Lose What You Never Had" ---

Muddy Waters
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 9:18pm
Mine was an 8 on a 10 point scale.
Onward and upward.
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Registered: 01-17-2006
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:07am

Thanks for sharing, I have to say alot of the replies made me laugh!

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