Really Looking at XAP - Physical Looks?
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Really Looking at XAP - Physical Looks?
| Tue, 02-02-2010 - 3:40pm |
I did not know how to put that discussion title out there, but I read somewhere ( maybe it was even here) about when we have A's, that we date down so to speak.
I was thinking about my XAP and I realized, what

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I'm thinking you all need a refresher course in Chemistry to remember why looks have nothing to do with it.
Actually when we have chemistry with someone, it's not exactly flattering. In fact, some might call it insulting.
Why? According to Harville Hendrix our brain dumps PEA when we identify someone who can:
Now, if you want a
"2. Give us back what we lost to the socialization process of growing up"
I see this with my H. He has many nurturing qualities that I didn't get from dad. I think it is a good thing though because
Oh, my gosh. I did find that funny. But also, the nice side of me thought, "ah. ugly people need love, too!" ha.
Gee, I'd wished I'd recognized my Daddy-Issues while I still had the body to capitalize on it. I bet I could have made some serious dough swinging on a pole!
On my hotness scale, X is an 8. I'm an 8. H is an 8. That Latino dude in the elevator this morning was an 11. Sometimes I'm sorry I'm no longer a fallen woman! ahahahah.
xAP and I met online and I got emotionally connected to him before I ever really saw him in person. So, he was very attractive to me in matters of the heart and personality.
That being said, he is "cute" - he's shorter which I like because I am and has beautiful brown skin because he is part spanish and I have realized I am now attracted to that look in men (black hair, dark brown eyes) slightly balding and for his age, he has a very nice body with very nice arm muscles. However, no, I prob wouldn't have looked his way had we met in person first before knowing each other.
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