Reduced to VM
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| Tue, 06-28-2005 - 1:32pm |
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I have been reduced to a voicemail!!!!! Since this weekend, when MM left a message on my voicemail at work, saying that he cannot leave his daughter, he has left a number of messages saying that he was sorry for hurting me. Now, he is confused about the status of our relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And he wants me to clarify it for him. I'm speechless.
Yet, he has not had the courage to call me or see me. Not that I want to see or speak to him at this point, but one would think that after two years, I would not be reduced to a voicemail. What is this?????
OK. Now my hurt has turned to anger. I know that he calls my house and when I answer, he hangs up. Not that I can prove this, but I just know. You know what I mean? Just a hunch.
When I received his voicemail messages, saying that he was sorry, it took some of the pain away for a while. But this last message....WOW. Do you believe it!
Cyprus

I'm feel your pain. I am currently in the same boat as you. He has just stopped calling he will give me a little attention like stop by my office for a few minutes but as far as time and talk is concerned I now get nothing. He has pretty much taken every promise he made to me over the course of time (about two years) and thrown them out the door. He alway said he respects me and what I think of him matters to him. Well you don't treat someone you supposedly love and respect like a piece of thrown away garbage. And I think he is a sorry coward. So I am angry and I want him to suffer and hurt like I am hurting. My heart is broken in to a million pieces and I don't know what to do. Your MM should give you the respect and tell you what is going on in person not through voice mail. That is the cowardly way out. I'm sorry you are going through this but everything will turn out for the better at least that is what I am telling myself.
luv
Cyprus,
{{{{{{{{MANY HUGS}}}}}}}}}
...and I am sorry that your xMM chose the coward way by leaving you a lousy vm. Mine did the SAME thing!
I thought my A was going fine, then I went on vacation for 5 days, before that I saw xMM twice in a row, even had IC, then I came back from vacation, and when I called him he was ignoring my calls. After several tries I finally got a hold of him, but he was totally cold to me. In his mind he already wanted to end it with me, but was too coward to say it over the phone, even after I asked him if everything was okay because he sounded totally not happy to hear from me, he still said "Yeah, everything is fine."
Well, the next morning came the total shock. At 4 a.m. in the morning he left me a vm and said he had to end it with me. His reasons: he felt guilty for what he was doing behind his W's back and he also said that our A has worn out. Ouch!
When I called him back that morning, he kept ignoring me and for 2 days straight he was a chicken and would not pick up my calls. I went nuts and had a nervous breakdown, confessed everything to my H and then I sent a text message to xMM telling him that my H knows about our A and then FINALLY xMM called me up.
A coward, or what????? Yes, unfortunately this is what it all comes down to. We never meant a thing in their life. I was with my xMM for 11 months and for him to end it so cowardly shows that he NEVER cared.
I have been A-free since June 7!!!! NC with xMM since June 9 and still going strong.
My focus now is my H and my M. He is the ONLY man who truly loves me and I hate myself for betraying him for an xMM who wasn't even worth it. It's sad, but true, that I wasted 11 months out of my life for this coward.
I would advice you to end the A once and for all. If your xMM is such a coward and he keeps telling you how sorry he is, and that his daughter is more important, then what's the point of holding onto a man who is most likely never gonna leave home.
If you don't have caller i.d. now is the time to get one. This way you will know for sure if it's him who's calling you.
Sorry that you are going thru all this, but stay strong and don't let him manipulate you. A 1000 sorry's is not gonna take away the pain this man is putting you thru.
JMHO,
PG