Rejection is Protection

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Registered: 11-19-2006
Rejection is Protection
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Sun, 03-07-2010 - 12:31am


I read or heard somewhere that "rejection is protection", which makes sense to me, as the A wasn't meant to be and therefore protecting one from whatever it is in the relationship that was bad (all of it).

Whether you were rejected by xap or was the one that did the rejecting (NC), it doesn't really matter which way; just matters that you have protected yourself from any future pain.

Mish :)

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 10:30am

Mish,

I missed responding to this last week--but interestingly enough, at church on Sunday this was said. I also heard it from my T. (:

Just simple words with big meaning. It is soooo hard to think of rejection as anything other than hurtful, but if we step back we can often see that it did mean saving us more pain. Especially with A's.

Thanks for sharing!

LL (:

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 11:29am
What a message for me today! .. I was struggling in another thread because ... after I initiated NC, I asked him to go back and it was him who refused this time... and I was saying that I was feeling awful and so ashamed about that! I preferred the romantic ending somehow ... but obviously the rejection is much stronger really because I feel so angry and mad and unloved and cheap .. all these feelings make it easier to let go!! Very much needed to hear these words today!!! Thanks for sharing!