Reset for me too...NC day 1

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Registered: 12-09-2010
Reset for me too...NC day 1
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 8:41pm

I did reach out first, and I heard you. But my anxiety about how the LC would go after I return to work after the new year was making me crazy.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 9:06pm
Hi W4P,

I have lots I would like to share, but before I do, I wonder about this: If we treat our xAPs how to treat us, what do you think you taught your (x)AP about you today? What messages did you send him about how you think & feel? I encourage you to really reflect on this because I promise you, if you head into a LC situation with the kinda mentality (needing HIS acceptance and reassurance) that brought you to acting today, you'll be right back into that affair.

((hugs for the hurting)) because these conversations usually come back to haunt us,

TU.
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Registered: 12-09-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 7:47am

TU, I taught him that I have a weak spot in my resolve, and that a part of me feels like it needs him. I taught him that I still don't think I have anything better to do than spend time with him, even if long distance. I took a major step in dismantling my statement to him that this is over.