Returned Gifts

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Returned Gifts
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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 4:41pm
Came back from a meeting to find an array of little token gifts I had given xAP piled on my desk. He felt the need to return them to me, while I was away from my desk. I just put them in my desk drawer and didn't say a word about it. Looks like he's really trying to get my attention. Felt like I got punched in the stomach.

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Thu, 02-25-2010 - 7:00am

Good Morning!

My AXP didnt return anything but I had a sh*t load of his stuff here;since we were planning on moving in together. Once it was over it took about a week to get my butt in gear and start tossing. About 6 weeks later I went to a g/f's house and had a fire....hehehe.

That being said, I do still have tokens around. Some is because they just came out of the woodwork and didnt find them and then there is some like the ring(s), the necklace, something his deceased father gave him. The jewlary Im not sure what Im going to do with it, I want to pawn it. My point is- yes its all great advice youve already gotton and I would recommond getting rid of it all but if youre like me, all in good time-out of sight out of mind till I come across it again and it goes to the burn barrel.

Debbra

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Fri, 02-26-2010 - 3:17pm
The way I look at the returning gifts issue, and I know it doesn't fit the EAS program, is that the affair was and can't be denied, sure it was wrong but that doesn't negate it in any way. Destroying, returning or removing the physical evidence (gifts, etc.) doesn't change the fact that the affair happened and was a part of your life - your HISTORY. The future is a different story and has yet to be written.

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