Returning to normalcy...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2010
Returning to normalcy...
2
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:38pm

Five weeks NC and I'm getting better and better about leaving xAP behind me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 4:39pm

AJC,


I think your M will eventually find its "normal" place, but it will take some time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 8:08pm

Here’s a link where Energy who is a vet responded to another poster. It may help give some insight and suggestions:


<http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending/?msg=28604.19>


In June, I will be three years out from D-day. While I can relate to some of your frustration, I know what I had to keep reminding myself is that I was the one who created the situation and it was up to me to be committed to fixing the problem. Yes I had other obligations too but for too long I had put just about eveything and everyone else before my M. It was very important that I made my DH know he was my priority. I also had to resolve issues within myself before I could open up and connect with my hubby.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.