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Revengeful Thoughts
| Fri, 11-13-2009 - 4:51pm |
SO.......I just popped in to say hiya and read a few posts from newbies and I am dissapointed to read a couple of you have thoughts of telling the GF or the W.
One thing I learned from my A and I am out for 2 years........is that getting through it means you need to take responsibility for yourself.

Candoit2,
Im most likely one of the posters that your referring to, and I just want to explain to you that Im not looking for revenge or planning on contacting his LIGF. She contacted me the other day when she saw my number on his phone as a missed call. My guess is that she called because she's probably seen it before....and he thinks he had it all under control! HA!
My question was based on the fact that this woman was almost begging me to be honest with her that night when she called, before she hung up she told me she may call me again in a few days, to give me a chance to get over the shock of her calling me and that maybe then I would be willing to tell her the truth, so she could make an informed decision about her life.
Yes I felt guilty and thought that maybe if she didnt call I should reach out to her, but I know now that I wont do that, and if she calls me Ill most likely tell her the same thing, to direct her questions to him. My feelings are that this is between the two of them and hes got bigger stress and problems than I do at this moment.
I think the guilt made me feel as if I should have told her, and some say I should have, some tell me to contact her.
Hi Sue -
Cando,
Thanks for the response. Im holding on here through all this mess and its not easy.
Hi Sue
I'll tell you that the realization that my xAP was a selfish SOB was one of the things that propelled me to finally get over him.
I had to learn a very tough lesson about revenge.
Hi Sue
Just saw your post, I will read your other post - Day 6.