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ROLL CALL
| Sun, 10-31-2010 - 10:26pm |
Iddy (and the board),
I know you did a roll call last week or so regarding who is here after the board/forum changes, can we have your standard roll call?

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I should probably wait for Iddy to actually start the roll call, but I don't know if I will be able to post later so I hope I might be forgiven for jumping in here.
I have posted before and then I stopped. No prizes for guessing why. Breaking NC stinks because it makes you question whether you can ever stick to any of your goals in life. Also, I have been surrounded by my family the last few weeks. This meant that while I could read surreptitiously on my iphone once in a while, I didn't have the privacy to actually post anything. But I have been lurking like mad and reading, and I am so happy for all those who have picked themselves up and started healing so beautifully. Someone posted a little while back about how all your revelations and reflections are so helpful for lurkers, and I would like to echo that sentiment. Thank you all, for sharing both your tribulations and insights with equal generosity. You have no idea how many people you are helping.
I don't dare to give too many details for fear of compromising the anonymity that gives me the courage to post at all, so I hope you will forgive the incomplete disclosure. I am M and so is XAP. I have children and he doesn't. I have no idea what the deal is with his M, but mine is a very happy one with depth and understanding. If at all there was a crack in it (and there must have been, for me to have even considered the A) it was that I took my H for granted. The A has shown me how very lucky I am to have an honest, committed and understanding H, and I want to do everything I can to be worthy of his love. No more breaking NC for me. My counter starts today. There has been no D-Day, most likely because XAP and I live in different countries and have never gone beyond cybersex. But I don't kid myself - cybersex is still cheating, it could still get discovered, and it will still hurt my H.
A while back when I first posted here, I was close to giving up. A few of you (Iggy in particular) reached your hands out to me and helped me up. You saved my life. Thank you.
OHHHHH Browndress,
You made my night!! Thx for sharing. Thx for reading and lurking...thx for post, if even briefly. Thank you so much. Happy we have helped you one way or another. Let us directly off the board or on if you ever need us...
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Im Michelle, soon to be 45
Single
I love roll calls!! Without a spreadsheet, it is difficult to keep up with who's who! :)
I'm married, for 28 years, and I'm
EA/PA Affair with MM for 2 years. Colleagues & classmates & many mutual friends who knew and colluded with our double lives.
Planned Dday on my end 1 week in, full on-going disclosure practice with H the whole A (this was brutally hard but what H asked for to feel safe) ... xAP planned his Dday 2 years in after my 2nd "real" attempt at NC ... saying he was leaving for me. Was getting cold feet so I told him good-bye for the last time in April. Haven't looked back since. Hasn't always been easy, but it has been worth it.
Fight like a mother every day to demonstrate to myself that I am committed to becoming a better person.
I am in the Eastern time zone.
EAS helped me save my life and then some. This board more than any other resource is helping me in just about every area of my life.
((hugs))
TU.
Luvin,
Looks like people are already posting in on your thread, so we'll just leave it at that. No point in confusing our posters anymore than they already are.
((Hugs))
Let me chime in, since I started all this. I am a single 37 year old mother of two kids 13 and soon to be 11. I have been out of my A almost 11 months. I consider myself a vet, even tho I am not....I am ambitious. Will be a vet come Dec 4 and it will be one big cyber party...I had a really ugly ending...REALLY UGLY, a lot of it my own doing. I still struggle from time to time but for the most part I am well. I celebrate my accomplishments, even if small.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Bodhi by the numbers:
NC = 4 months (yay Tweeners)
Affair = 7.5 years (boo me)
Was married for 14 years (yay 2 amazing kids)
Single = 6 years now (boo me for not acting like it)
hee hee :) Thanks - I was going to call myself "Boo"dhi but the joke would have been funnier yesterday!
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