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| Tue, 12-08-2009 - 9:27am |
To All: (Newbies, tweeners, vets, and lurkers)
I remember that Messenger used to do this every so often
| Tue, 12-08-2009 - 9:27am |
To All: (Newbies, tweeners, vets, and lurkers)
I remember that Messenger used to do this every so often
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My A was brief starting "officially" in July and ending (sort-of) in late Oct.
Not really sure what to call myself....frequent poster?
I'm M and had an A with a friend's husband. Lasted over a year. It was a PA only, but my emotions started to get the best of me and I developed feelings for him. I told him and he said he could never see us having a relationship. He never called, text or emailed me....when we were alone we had sex. (I watched his toddler son 3x a week) He's had a one night stand and an A with a co-worker before...his W and him are supposed to be getting a divorce. He only wanted sex, but he was always "yes, I want to have sex"...."no, I don't want to do this anymore"....this back and forth lasted a whole year. Told me over the summer he didn't want ANY affair anymore, then I found out he had an ad on an affair dating site.
He has confused the heck out of me and killed my self-esteem. I wasn't his first affair and I certainly won't be his last. The fog has finally started to lift and I'm seeing him for what he really is. I'm really glad I found this board and the ladies on here are very sweet and supportive. The Healing Library has really helped me and I'm starting to work on ME again.....but....there are days when I long for him and think about him. It isn't easy....I guess it's true when they say one day at a time....
Hi,
I am a newbie and I wonder if I'll always be a newbie since I am in LC with xAP. He is my neighbor and our kids are best friends.
I have been married to H for 7 years now, we have 3 kids and I am expecting (yes, here's some news ;-)) our 4th.
NO, IT'S DEFINITELY NOT XAP's BABY!! We haven't had sex for a long time.
I am not sure how I feel about H. He feels more like a brother to me. Sometimes I don't know how to go on like this
XAP comes fishing quite often.
It's so hard to get out of the fog when you are in LC, so if you have the chance to go NC, take it with both hands!!! I would have gone NC a long time ago if it would be possible.
Htgo
Edited 12/9/2009 8:58 am ET by how_to_get_out
Hey, long time stalker of this site, just joined today.
Congrats to Iddy.
Hi Iddy,
Congrats on the CL position! Your post a while back regarding my situation really, really helped me so I'm happy to see that you'll be around...:)
I'm M, in my A for 5 years, in NC mode for almost 5 weeks now. I found EAS a
I just want to ((hug)) all of you for stepping up and sharing your stories and thoughts. I am a firm believer that once we start talking about our trials and tribulations, the pain starts to lesson, and for some reason the door
~Iddy~
I am mostly a lurker but have been here since Aug. 07. I am a M(20+yrs)W/kids and was in a very intense EA with a family friend who is a MM/kid. We are both in our 40's. My EA ended Dec. 08 with alot of sadness. I was a wreck to say the least. We are in the same circle of friends so N/C was impossible but we did not have any private contact....In May of this past year he was injured and I sent him a text to wish him well on his surgery that morning. After that we both decided that enough time had past and we could try the friends thing. Almost immediately we went back into our EA but honestly I didn't even realize that at the time. We were not saying ILU, and in every text and conversation we would talk about going out as couples again so it really felt like we could go back to a real friendship. I can now see that at that point he realized that our "friendship" was too intense and he started to pull away. I was hurt but went along with the crumbs he was still throwing at me. I know he still wanted me in his life but it was going to be on his terms and that was it. The day before Thanksgiving we talked on the phone and during that conversation I realized we are not friends anymore so I immediately told him I can't have this "private" friendship with him anymore it was not real. He agreed and we said goodbye. It was very easy for him to let me walk away again and I can see now how much I really meant to him....not much. So I am about 2 weeks N/C. I know I will have to see him again soon but over the past year I have really been weaning myself away from him b/c deep down
Hi...I am a newbie here.
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