Roll Call time ;-)

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Roll Call time ;-)
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 12:09pm

Okay, so how about chiming in and letting us know who is still reading here on a regular basis, and while you're at it, how long have you been NC/LC? (be honest now)....and anything else you'd like to talk about is on the table.


I would like to know:


How are you really doing/feeling?


Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?


Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?


What positive "personal" changes have you made?


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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:


1) What's your favorite season?


2) What kind of music do you like?


3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?


4) What's your favorite color?


5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?


6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)


7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.


8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)


((Hugs)), and here's hoping you all have a strong day.




   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 12:30pm

It's been such a quiet morning! This is good :)

Bodhi: 4 days NC

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Feeling pretty strong right now.

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I'm divorced, so I don't have to deal with what a lot of you have to. I have two wonderful kids - 16 and 13 and they are doing great. I've done a pretty darn good job shielding them from my emotional rollercoster.

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I plan to soon - I played the guitar for awhile and I might take some lessons again.

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Still very fresh and new here. I've reached out to several girlfriends and have made plans to do a few things with them.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season?
AUTUMN! You can't beat the beauty of the leaves changing where I live.

2) What kind of music do you like?
ALL TYPES But my favorite band are Porcupine Tree (anyone heard of them??) and Coldplay. I've seen both in concert - amazing. I also listen to a lot of new age, spa type music.

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?
BOTH. Not a big fan of shopping.

4) What's your favorite color?
BLACK! I'm a graphic designer - we have to sign a contract to like black.

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?
IDDY IDDY IDDY. :)

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)
HA! DEFINITELY FLIP FLOPS, but I also like a good pair of Jimmy Choos.

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.
LOW, but I bet MM wouldn't agree with that ;)

8) Is your CL too nosy? ;-)
NO WAY :)

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 1:29pm

No, no... don't make me talk about myself; you know how I HATE that!! ;)

How are you really doing/feeling?
I feel great about ending the A but still suffering from the same issues that got me there in the first place - except for lack of self control. That, I've learned through pain, pain, pain. Somedays I am so lonely and feel totally overlooked and it makes me miss my xAP - yuck.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?
I am less manic, more focused on RL and my children. I am less distracted and irritable. I don't resent my H as much and I'm not such a raving bitch all the time.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?
No, but I'm reappropriated my former A-time towards my family and the results are very evident. It's take thiiiis long, but I'm only just now starting to have the 'extra' energy needed to have hobbies.

What positive "personal" changes have you made?
I see myself more clearly now. I don't believe my lies anymore. I accept full responsibility for who I am and my life - I am truly the author of my own life.

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1) What's your favorite season? Spring and Fall!

2) What kind of music do you like? huge list of likes but I will always be a mod-rocker babe!

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?
I don't shop on line and I don't like to shop on-foot, either. Although, when I'm loaded and thin, I dislike it a lot less!

4) What's your favorite color? couldn't possibly pick!

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today? Me.

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)
I own a gagillion hot shoes, a ton of flip flops (heart them) and only one pair of tennis shoes.

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.
Easy peasy.

8) Is your CL too nosy? ;-)
hahahahaha. Not nosy enough, I'd say!!

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 2:39pm

Ahhh, FUN!!!! I want to join in....


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Registered: 07-28-2009
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 2:55pm

Hello Iddy...

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 3:09pm

Hello all,


Babysteps here...previously known as 'Imustenjoypain'.

Babysteps


...even if it is all I can do, I can take one babystep.


NC/LC since May 21, 2010

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 4:35pm

You gals rock. Every response had me laughing

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-05-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 4:43pm

I am still here and

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 4:54pm

I am great, I miss my kids as they are w/ my now former H.


No hobby except running


I am over months NC and so over him


I love myself more than I ever have


fall


salsa, hip hop, and R&B


Go out shopping


My mom had the most impact for me since I came here (some of which was good)


Today the my kids and this board including E-1 and you


Low maintenance


Flip flops for day to day...heels if I am going out, which is rare


Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 7:38pm

I read this earlier today and didn't have time to respond, which is good because it allowed me to think of how I would respond when I have time. Yay Iddy.

How are you really doing/feeling?
Awesome. Really, really awesome. Not to risk sounding to perky and pissing Dee off, but my heart actually swells with joy on a regular basis throughout the day. Just this evening, while making dinner for my H for when he gets home from class later, I caught myself humming... yeah, like humming my heart out. I think that's a true sign of contentment. And earlier today at work, I was whistling. One of my co-workers actually came down to my office to ask if I was on something because it isn't natural to be so happy.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?
Oh man, where to start. Yes. My H knows all about my A. We have full disclosure. Tearing down the walls that I built around my heart and giving into him again has been liberating. We have never been closer. He is my person. He is my stronghold... wow- words I used to say to xap. Blech. That makes me want to vomit.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?
I have become fully invested in my existing hobbies- roller skating, reading, exercising, spending time with the family... it's great. It's so amazing to feel "free" to do the things that I enjoy... I don't put things on hold just in case he's available to chat or see me. Whatever dude. I got so much going on now that I have to schedule "down" time just to relax. This real life stuff is tiring :) But best of all, there's no more wallowing in self pity- no more refusing to get out of bed... I spring up at the butt crack of dawn to start my day now, with a nice 5 mile walk with the H.

What positive "personal" changes have you made?
Too many to count. I think being honest with myself and my H has been the biggest thing. I was so defensive before. I've really spent some time working on that. And listening- not only to myself but to my H. I stopped doubting me, him, us... I put all my faith back where it belongs.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season?
I like them all for about the first 15 days and then... In the winter, I love the first snow, and then I just wish it would all melt so I could get to work faster and stop scraping the car windows. In the summer, I love the first warm days, but then I start longing for the humidity to just get the heck out of dodge because it ruins my hair. In the spring I feel so refreshed by all the new growth, and then the allergies hit. And fall, ah fall. I love fall, until I have to rake the 3 tons of leaves that fall in my backyard. Seriously though, I really love all seasons. That's why I live in the Midwest so I can enjoy them.

2) What kind of music do you like?
Everything really, but here are my faves:
David Bowie, Queen, AC/DC, Danzig, Fiona Apple, Cake, Ella Fitzgerald, Miles Davis, BB King, Eric Clapton, George Clinton, Pink Floyd, Jethro Tull, Joni Mitchell, Stevie Nicks, The Avett Brothers, Sting, The Police, Supertramp, Grateful Dead, Ben Harper, Old Crow Medicine Show

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?
I really do like to shop, but my H and I have fallen on hard times and he's gone back to school full time... so there's little money to spend on "extra" things. I do, however, treat myself to a new pair of socks regularly. I love new socks.

4) What's your favorite color?
Today, blue. Yesterday, green... tomorrow, who knows :)

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?
My boss. She's amazing. Inspiring. Selfless... and I caught her bragging about me to someone when she didn't know I was around. That's the best. It made me feel really good about what I do.

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)
Designer shoes... flip flops hurt my toes.

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.
Most people think I am easy going, though the past year I've been pretty high maintenance. I'd like to think I am slowly regaining my low-keyness.

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)
Never. Ever. Never.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 8:09pm

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