Roll Call time ;-)

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Roll Call time ;-)
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 12:09pm

Okay, so how about chiming in and letting us know who is still reading here on a regular basis, and while you're at it, how long have you been NC/LC? (be honest now)....and anything else you'd like to talk about is on the table.


I would like to know:


How are you really doing/feeling?


Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?


Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?


What positive "personal" changes have you made?


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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:


1) What's your favorite season?


2) What kind of music do you like?


3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?


4) What's your favorite color?


5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?


6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)


7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.


8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)


((Hugs)), and here's hoping you all have a strong day.




   ~Iddy~ 


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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:18pm

Thanks, Iddy, for rounding us up once again.

How are you really doing/feeling?
Ever so much better than I was back in February. I have days where I feel happy sometimes--it had been years since I have been able to say that.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?
Most definitely. Putting my focus on my husband and family is opening me up to all the goodness I had been missing.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one? Gardening in the spring and summer is my passion, and H has joined me--finally!

What positive "personal" changes have you made?
Have gone to therapy weekly, faithfully, for the past 16 months. Last week my therapist told me that she felt I was doing so well that we could cut back to every other week. Man, I felt SO GOOD when she said that. Sometimes hard for me to see my own changes. I am learning to love myself and take care of myself.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season? Spring.
Seeing stuff poking up out of the ground after a long Wisconsin winter is life-affirming and just plain wonderful.

2) What kind of music do you like?
Anything indie, folksy, bluesy or acoustic.

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?
Shopping, by any name, is fabulous!

4) What's your favorite color?
Pink

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?
I am not sure about that one.

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)
I have a shoe...ummmmm......problem, shall we say. I don't wear flip-flops--they hurt my feet.

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.
I guess that depends on who you ask. I think of myself as pretty low-key. I don't like interpersonal drama at all---especially at work.

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)
My CL is awesome.

Lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 1:02am

20 days NC. A newbie to the board, but reading a lot.

How are you really doing/feeling? Came to the board confused and angry. Still a bit angry, A fog is lifting somewhat. Today was emotionally tiring as I slipped back into memories. Still very hurt, feeling like I was duped because I was so naive. However, last piece in place today as I blocked phone numbers and filtered emails. NC means NC.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front? YES. For almost two years I was disengaged at home. I'm starting to appreciate H more, little things and he seems much happier and getting more involved in my youngest (twins, almost 13) girls lives. Putting more energy into them, less to worry about me.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one? Gardening is still a passion and weeding a ton after planting 900 flowers for my oldest daughter's open house.

What positive "personal" changes have you made?

Still continuing with my daily work outs to feel better, keep in shape and dash away all frustration. Huge month its been with graduation open house, son's bday, colonoscopy and turning 50, and surviving the end of the A, but I made it and as a size 4, I look GOOD for my age!

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season? Wow, do I have to pick? Spring and Summer for gardening, fall because of the colors and winter because of the snow, all of them are okay, but I like spring best.

2) What kind of music do you like? All kinds, usually what plays on the radio, then and now.

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online? Both. Hard to shop for clothes online, and my favorite for everything else is Amazon.com

4) What's your favorite color? Red

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today? My kids

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-) neither, give me running shoes any day.

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going. I'm in between.

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-) Nope




Edited 6/23/2010 1:06 am ET by movingon50

MovingON

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 7:25am

I absolutely love the personal changes you are all making. This shows other readers that "Stella is getting her groove back." ;-) An A may devastate us in the initial ending stages but it doesn't define who we are or what we are capable of doing when we put our minds to it.


You are an amazing group of women and I am honored to have each and every one of you as part of this community. I hope you stay, read, and post for however long you need to, and then one day spread your beautiful new wings and fly out of the EAS nest with a renewed sense of self confidence and purpose.


Yes, we all took a wrong turn when we came to that fork in the road, but having the courage to self correct is what this journey is all about.


Love and hugs,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-31-2009
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 9:25am

OK, here goes!


How are you really doing/feeling? I'm doing better all the time.

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Registered: 07-13-2009
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 11:31am

How are you really doing/feeling?

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 12:39pm

Hey Sisters!!!!.....Miss u all long time!!


I like this!

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 4:55pm

I am so late to this party...didn't have time for much yesterday and don't have much time now but wanted to play, too!!!


How are you really doing/feeling?

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 5:40pm

Hello All!! Sorry I'm late. It's been a really busy (but really good) week already.

How are you really doing/feeling?

The fog is still lifting, but I am more out of the fog than in it now. I have really been feeling better, not missing xAP at all. I do still think about him though, and still waiting for that to stop.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?

Things are better, but not wonderful. Still working on it though. H does not know about my A - he suspected, but I never fessed up. Never will.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?

Smoking too much, drinking too much, eating too much. However, when I'm not doing one of those things, I'm spending quality time with my kids and loving every minute of it!

What positive "personal" changes have you made?

I definitely feel more focused on my kids, on my job and even on my friends. I didn't realize how much I had disconnected myself during the A, but I really had.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season?
Spring!

2) What kind of music do you like?
I'm a rock-n-roll girl

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?
I hate shopping. But I guess I'd rather do it in person.

4) What's your favorite color?
Pink

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today? Definitely my Dad.

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops?
flip-flops FOR SURE!

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going?
I'm with Always on this one - I'm going with Medium-High.

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)
No, it's nice to know that she' interested!

-Angel

NC since April 15, 2010

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 7:30pm

Hi All (-:

I have been LC since April. I have had many ups and downs - and some wobbles - but never falling down. I read here every single day, and although I post much less often than I used to, I am planning on changing that around! EAS has been my lighthouse through the darkest storm I have known ...

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How are you really doing/feeling? I am okay. That's just me at this moment: some days are really great, and some are not so hot. That's okay though. I have learned to be gentle on myself - LC is extremely hard, and my xAP does not make it easy on me. He fishes continuously, and I get worn down after too many days with lots of contact )-: He is the killing me with kindness kinda xAP - which is actually just his selfish way of trying to engage me.

Today I couldn't get outta bed. So I slept all day to try and recover. Now I have a headache from too much sleep. I haven't had a day like this in a long long time.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front? Omg yes ... I am present with my children more, I don't rush to put them to sleep and I don't care about time away from my computer. I am looking forward to family vacation time and to leaving my cell and computer at home!!

I am re-engaging with my H - who has been living out of the house now for almost a year.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one? Errr...smoking. NOT a good one. Pretty safe to say I have an addictive personality.

What positive "personal" changes have you made? Many. Most importantly reconnecting with loved ones who I tossed to the side during my A. I am trying to show them how much I love them and need them in my life.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season? Fall - without a doubt.

2) What kind of music do you like? I love all types of music - I love to sing load and dance around my house.

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online? I am not a shopper - and when I do (I believe in recycling clothing) so I shop at mostly used clothing stores.

4) What's your favorite color? Couldn't pick just one.

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today? My parents.

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-) Flip flops ... although I have never tried on a pair of designer shoes - unless Birkenstocks count?

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going? I am low maintenance with high expectations. I love natural beauty, so it takes me nothing to roll outta bed and into the nearest thing on the floor (usually) ... I could sleep just as easily on a dirt patch as a bed, and could survive off peanut butter and bread. But, I expect a lot intellectually. So - in that sense, I am very high maintenance.

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-) Iddy - I love you. You are an incredible gift to us, and I am so grateful for all you do.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 10:30pm

How are you really doing/feeling?

Feeling so very sad it is consuming my very being today :( Contact was broken yesterday. So I am starting anew today! Oh boy! I will post soon the details.

Have you noticed any positive changes on the home front?

I am truly blessed with great friends and family. They are great group of people and I love having them around! Quality time is spent with the people that actually love and care for me.

Have you started a new hobby or reinstated an old one?

I would like to go back to the gym. I put that on the back burner. I have yet to start. It is a plan for me tomorrow. I cant wait to get back into a routine again.

What positive "personal" changes have you made?

I was making progress but I took 10 steps back. Although I am depressed right at the moment I realized why I am making the same mistake with XMM. I am so insecure it is torture to me. I also want XMM to say the things that he once did. Made m feel like I was walking on a cloud when he would text me or call me to say Hello beautiful. But the sad reality clicked in today that it was all a hoax and that killed my self esteem. On a positive note I know what I need to work on and that is my self love and self worth. I dont know where to start. I dont think I ever loved myself before I always put others before me.

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And here are few questions that will help us get to know you better:

1) What's your favorite season? Summer all the way. Sun, heat, beach, teeny weeny polka dot bikini, tan, fruity rum drinks. Ahhhh!

2) What kind of music do you like?

I love all kinds of music!

3) Do you like to go out shopping or do most of it online?

Does a bear sh*t in the woods? OMG I love to shop!!! That is my feel good :)

4) What's your favorite color?
Purple!

5) What person had the most impact on who you are today?
One of my gf. She called me at a very weak moment (she know of XMM) and she listened and was very nurturing to me. SHe is a positive person and all about self love. She was really there for me!

6) What do you like the most: Designer shoes or flip-flops? (had to throw that in here. ;-)

Flip Flops for every day. But I love to put on a pair of stilettos and go out for a night of dancing.. Also the legs just looks great in a pair of stilettos. :)

7) Are you high maintenance, or low key/easy going.
Ummm... I can go both ways. I am easy going but I also like to splurge a little :P

8) Is your CL too nosey? ;-)

Not at all!!!