The Rubber Band thing
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The Rubber Band thing
| Thu, 03-18-2004 - 9:18am |
I read about this on another message board here... I've been wearing a rubber band on my wrist, and anytime I start obsessing about my XOM, wanting to contact him, whatever -- I snap it hard against my wrist to deter me. Ouch. I think it's working! :)

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He has so much guilt over the whole thing that he can barely look at me. I told him if he would deal with his feeling instead of trying to ignore them he could get past all of this mess. But I guess that is his problem, not mine. I do still get a little angry with him, but that's getting better, too.
It was a mutual ending so I know he isn't missing the A either. We had a wonderful friendship that we ruined by getting involved. The only savior to this is we didn't have a sexual affair and I really think that is why I was able to completely get over it. Although it seemed to take forever and I didn't think I would ever get to the point that I am at now.
I look at the A as a mistake to learn from. I am the happiest that I have ever been in my marriage. Although I didn't see it for a long time, my A made me realize that my H is truly my soul-mate and I would never want to lose him. I can't imagine my life without him in it. I love my life and everything about it just the way it is now.
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