Running from an A

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Registered: 04-26-2004
Running from an A
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:10pm
Back in early June I decided my A for 2 months wasn't a good thing. Basically I was having a lot of regret and the fact she screwed around with my head about with her relationship status just slowly killed the attraction. The last time I was with her, the sex wasn't even that good. After contimplating I decided to run away from the A literally. I could have just told her it was over, but I didn't. I blocked my instant messenger.

One of two things is going on with her after a month or so of that. She lost my cell phone number (We communicated primarly Instant message), she doesn't have my home number. I'm also unlisted. The other is she got the hint and she's moving on.

No email, no nothing. Believe me when I had a huge fight with the W I had every opportunity to be with her for most of the evening, and I didn't take it so that was a sign. W to this day doesn't know and I have no desire to tell her.

I haven't told anyone, so I'm confessing here on the board.

Has anyone else done this? Just one day up and ran from the A?

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 10:55pm
No never did that, it would have been nice to give her closure but at this point the kind thing is just to leave her alone to get on with her life and you do like wise.

Best of luck

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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:30pm
Hiya Blue,

Well, I've only had the one. To be frank, I'd gladly eat live wasps before I'd ever do it again, but no, I've never run from an A.

I told him rather calmly & matter of factly that he was an immature, self-obsessed, manipulative wanker and I wished to have nothing further to do with him in this life or any other.

I agree with Free, it'd be kindest to all concerned to simply leave things be.

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:49pm
I never ran from my affair but my XMM did. I agree with Free though that whilst it would have been much better for you to give her the closure she probably needed its best to leave things be now. You made a decision back then that wasn't the kindest option to her but if she's now moved on then don't stir things up again. Whilst i am at the point where i no longer need closure from my XMM because i found that within myself, if he'd made contact after only 2 months (its now been nearly 10 months) i probably would've agreed to see him & listen to what he had to say but from my experiences of reading about that on here maybe i should be grateful that he left well enough alone after taking the easy way out.