I am one of the women you are talking about (MW with SxAP). And yes, I am living proof that it WILL get worse! I stayed in that hell for 13 long months and it kept getting worse and worse. I hear you and understand FULLY when you say you felt like life was getting sucked out of you. That's what I felt day in day out with my narcissistic xAP. It's been 3 months now NC and I feel FREE. My sister says "Good riddance", and as much as it sounds mean, it's true!
I see no reason why you wouldn't be able to reconnect with your husband. I'm sure there's a strong foundation and history involved, think of all the reasons you married him. Think back and relive the wonderful "courtship" days you had with H. I often think back and reminisce about those days, it gives me a warm feeling in my heart. Then compare that with the A anxiety. Not worth it, right?
Texting and spending time is a great way to reconnect with H. I now text my husband throughout the day. And if you showed him attention/affection, you'd be surprised as to how he will respond. I can say my marriage is better NOW than when I first started the dreaded A.
You're on your way now and I'm so happy for you :)
Yes, the lying, cheating, sneaking was causing me so much anxiety too. Plus, I had to manage the double life, tend to both men's needs, having xAP always saying that it wasn't enough, all the arguments back and forth, it just wasn't worth it.
Now with half the effort, I am reconnecting with DH and I know he loves me, he will never do what xAP did and what he put me through. I was so stupid having the A.
Missed...tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of your life. It's funny how you realize how much DH means to you when you need him and he comes through. Take are of yourself and keep reading and you'll see in time that you'll have the strength to stay NC. Hugs....
you are so ahead of the game...well its not a game, but I am sure you get my point, you are on the right path. So refreshing to see ya here and posting like you do.
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I am one of the women you are talking about (MW with SxAP). And yes, I am living proof that it WILL get worse! I stayed in that hell for 13 long months and it kept getting worse and worse. I hear you and understand FULLY when you say you felt like life was getting sucked out of you. That's what I felt day in day out with my narcissistic xAP.
It's been 3 months now NC and I feel FREE.
My sister says "Good riddance", and as much as it sounds mean, it's true!
I see no reason why you wouldn't be able to reconnect with your husband. I'm sure there's a strong foundation and history involved, think of all the reasons you married him. Think back and relive the wonderful "courtship" days you had with H. I often think back and reminisce about those days, it gives me a warm feeling in my heart. Then compare that with the A anxiety. Not worth it, right?
Texting and spending time is a great way to reconnect with H. I now text my husband throughout the day. And if you showed him attention/affection, you'd be surprised as to how he will respond.
I can say my marriage is better NOW than when I first started the dreaded A.
You're on your way now and I'm so happy for you :)
Big hugs.
Garfy, I have been reading on ways to reconnect with DH.
Yes, the lying, cheating, sneaking was causing me so much anxiety too. Plus, I had to manage the double life, tend to both men's needs, having xAP always saying that it wasn't enough, all the arguments back and forth, it just wasn't worth it.
Now with half the effort, I am reconnecting with DH and I know he loves me, he will never do what xAP did and what he put me through. I was so stupid having the A.
I am just thankful I didn't invest in more time with JAM and lose my DH.
Much love,
TU.
I am so feeling you Missed....
you are so ahead of the game...well its not a game, but I am sure you get my point, you are on the right path. So refreshing to see ya here and posting like you do.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Hi MissedAgain
Welcome to EAS.
Missed, your love for DH comes across loud and clear here.
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